Have you experienced betrayal trauma in relationships? Have you been betrayed, emotionally abused, and abandoned? Disbelieved, dismissed, and even shunned? Betrayal trauma victims share what you need to know.

If you need support, learn about Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions.

Our Group Sessions Help You Identify Abusive Relationships

Identifying abuse can be difficult. Sometimes clergy, therapists, even the legal system dismiss abuse victims if there aren’t signs of physical battering. How can women accurately identify abuse if they bear no bruises? A safe space to share their experiences, emotions, and concerns is a necessary component in identifying abuse and finding validation. 

Betrayal Trauma Recovery empowers women when they become educated about emotional abuse. BTR.ORG coaches have training to help you identify the elements of abuse, so that you can make empowered, knowledgeable decisions for your own safety. When victims understand and accept they are in an abusive relationship, they can hold tightly to the truth.

BTR.ORG Group Sessions Empower Women To Live In Truth

Abusers condition victims to live in fear and lies. Embracing and living in truth helps victims find safety when they experience betrayal trauma in relationships. BTR.ORG Group Sessions are a safe space for women to express difficult emotions without fear of judgment. \

As Anne says, “Hope and help are possible.” You can heal. You can experience safety and peace again. Because you deserve love. When you have experienced betrayal trauma in relationships, you don’t have to do this alone. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions occur every day in every time zone. Also, attending a group session can help you process your trauma, ask questions, share your story, and create strong bonds with other women who get it. Remember, you’re not alone.

Transcript: Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: What You Need To Know

Anne: We have a very special episode today. Victims of betrayal trauma in relationships share their stories. About what helped them heal. Processing betrayal trauma, working through difficult emotions, and finding answers helped them. That they’ve never been able to get anywhere else.

Answers to questions like, How do I set a boundary that actually keeps me safe? Or how do I co-parent with my ex-husband when he keeps gaslighting me and the kids? If you’re married, considering separation, or planning to stay together, you need answers tailored to your specific situation. And it’s hard to find these answers in therapy or with clergy, because they just don’t understand emotional and psychological abuse.

So these victims will share how they felt when they went to Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #1 Received Validation & Encouragement From BTR

Betrayal Trauma Victim #1: I really appreciate how you validated everybody, first by listening, and then by encouraging them in their own insights. And giving them permission to do and be whatever they needed at that moment. I have not experienced that with counseling, though I’ve been through a lot. Yeah, it’s been a trial. And so I recognize the uniqueness of it, and it’s amazing.

Victim #2 Received Life-Changing Support From BTR

Betrayal Trauma Victim #2: Well, I found BTR through the Instagram posts, just realizing that’s me. Those things are about me. They help me. When I decided to join the group, it was like finally having the place where everything in my life that didn’t make sense made sense. Because there could be words put to it, I wasn’t alone. To be able to literally put the voices from the group in my ears and hear that as things are happening in my life.

It’s just been life changing. It’s been a great support.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #3 Learned That She’s Not Crazy

Betrayal Trauma Victim #3: Betrayal Trauma Recovery groups and individual sessions have all been an amazing space for me to find safety, encouragement, and support. BTR has helped me and continues to help me, as I’m still in this process to be reminded that I’m not crazy and there is a cycle of abuse. And I can watch for the signs, and I can check in with myself and my body.

I’m grateful. To have this community, it’s been really important to help me, be able to recover. And I look forward to recovering more.

Victim #4 Experienced Personal Growth and Recovery With BTR

Betrayal Trauma Victim #4: BTR has been life changing for me. I’ve been able to share my feelings. Also, I’ve been able to share my story. I’ve not only had the coaches help guide my own path. Because they don’t tell me how to choose to live, recover, or grow with my husband, it’s more of a guidance. The fact that I can hear other stories is amazing. I don’t feel alone.

And I feel the knowledge of what other women have gone through. I feel like that has taught me to grow, because it doesn’t have to be the same scenario. It’s just knowing what they’ve done at different chapters of my recovery has allowed me to make my decisions. I look forward to it every time I’m on here. I find it to be very affordable.

And actually, my counselor pissed me off one day. He had said, well, you know, women’s groups like to tell each other what to do. And that leads to divorce. And I was like, that’s not true. You guys definitely don’t lead us to make decisions that would cause anyone to choose divorce. That’s a huge thing for me, because I’ve heard other places or counselors do that. I definitely recommend Betrayal Trauma Recovery to everyone.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships Victim #5 Found BTR During Hard Situations

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Victim #5: My husband was in recovery and having all these meetings each week. And having all the help he needs and counseling. And I felt like I was being left out in the dark. I was at the end of my rope. So I started searching for something to help me. I found Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and decided that’s what would be best for me. So I started attending the group.

I have found that having this group has been the best thing that ever happened to me. It has taught me what self care means. It’s taught me a lot about gaslighting and DARVO, and things I’d never heard of before. They’ve helped me through a lot of really hard situations. The group has been so supportive. The women are amazing. Everyone has their own story to tell, but each person gets validation, support they need, and feedback from the coaches as well as each other.

Victim #5: I Learned Self Worth and Self Care

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Victim #5 Continues: It’s been great to know that I’m not alone in this, that there are other women who have struggled the same as I, and that I can support them, and they can support me. This group, I lean on it a lot. When I’m going through hard times, and I don’t understand everything happening with my addict, they help clarify situations for me, and give me options.

They also give me a place to share, and I feel safe, and I’m not being judged. I just want to let others know how wonderful the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group has been for me. And I would recommend it for anyone who’s going through betrayal trauma, so they can learn and grow. I feel like I’ve learned and grown from the first time I started attended to this day.

I’ve learned self worth. I’ve learned what self care is, things that I didn’t even understand when I started this group. So I just want to thank all the coaches, everyone.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #6 Found Clarity After 12 years

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Victim #6: I just wanted to say that I have been in therapy for 12 years, and only now have I felt I have the expert care and clarity I have been searching for for 12 years.

You are what I call, and this whole group, proactive. Where before it was just wishy washy, hit or miss. Psychobabbly type of therapy. This is exactly what women, this group needs. And I cannot thank you enough.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #7 Can Create Boundaries

Betrayal Trauma Victim #7: Hi, this group is new to me. I have been going through, not a good place for about three years. And this is the first time I have had other people share their stories where I felt so validated. I could totally relate. This isn’t just me. I’m not going crazy. I can stand my ground and create boundaries to keep myself safe, to keep my kids safe, and have multiple daily options to check in, check out, share, not share, and listen. The isolation I felt before is starting to dissipate.

Victim #8 Will Forever Be Grateful For BTR

Betrayal Trauma Victim #8: I arrived at BTR in full blown trauma, uh, never knowing what he was doing for years, and prior to we were married. And thank God that this is the place I found. Because there was love, nurturing, and education, and somebody, all coaches, friends, to walk with me and support me. And I will forever be grateful.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #9: BTR Changed Everything About My Life

Betrayal Trauma Victim #9: I had been in therapy for a while, years, and at least a year with Chuck before I found Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and there were no breakthroughs or anything. It was the same cycle, now that I know what it is, it was the same cycle of abuse happening over again with no real solution.

When I found Betrayal Trauma Recovery, I honestly tried to find reasons why the group wouldn’t be good for me. Because I knew it would change everything about my life. And it did, because I joined the group right before I initially separated from Chuck. So having Betrayal Trauma Recovery during that time of separation got me through. I wouldn’t be here and grow the way I am without BTR.

Victim #10: BTR Has Saved My Life

Betrayal Trauma Victim #10: BTR has been important for me through this journey. I can just succinctly say that it has saved my life. I would say just simply that. Without BTR, I wouldn’t be here probably.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #11 Finally Had A Name For Her Experience

Betrayal Trauma Victim #11: For years, I would always search. We’d have fights, and I would go to the internet to find out how I could be better, so that we could stop having fights. And article after article was never right. I just knew. And finally, one day I stumbled upon the BTR Podcast, and I don’t like listening to them. I like to read them. So I’m thankful for the transcript.

And I finally knew what I was reading was right. And when I had a name for what was going on in my marriage, I could finally start to work to fix it. Fixing it has meant not what I thought it would and it has saved my life too. So without BTR, I wouldn’t have a name for what I experienced, and I wouldn’t have a place to live after the healing.

Victim #12 Found BTR When She Had Nowhere Else To Go

Betrayal Trauma Victim #12: I didn’t ever think I would be in the position I’m in. I was with my ex fiancé from age 13 for 20 years. And I had no idea that he was living a double life. I found Betrayal Trauma Recovery when I was staying in hotels. And I had nowhere else to go, and I booked a one-on-one with a coach, and I haven’t looked back. I have learned so much. And tomorrow is my one year anniversary of leaving my ex partner.

Every day I hop on group, I see women I am inspired by, women ahead of me in the journey, and women following me on the journey. We’re all on different journeys, but somehow the connection that we have and the love that we share is real. So thank you so much. I don’t know what I would have done without Betrayal Trauma Recovery for the last 12 months.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #13 Found Out She Wasn’t Alone

Betrayal Trauma Victim #13: I found Betrayal Trauma Recovery helpful. The groups are helpful in connecting with other people going through this, and not feeling alone. And recognizing that there are lots of actually super capable, strong, determined, people experiencing abuse at different stages along the way.

I found the group sessions really helpful, and the podcast really nice, just to like listen to and understand broader patterns and trends. And I wish people didn’t have to find this on their own. And I’m glad Betrayal Trauma Recovery exists.

Victim #14 Is Now Safe In Her New Place

Betrayal Trauma Victim #14: Discovery was in 2011 of addiction. There’s just no support for women other than the groups available in that realm. And my therapist of many years never mentioned the word abuse. I felt like I was duped. As I got into Betrayal Trauma Recovery, I learned so much education from the coaches.

I was terrified with a learning disability. And didn’t think I could ever do this. I could never, ever, ever be free from a covert narcissist. And I have moved twice across the state, and also an alienation from my daughter. As I’m going through all this, the post separation abuse was just heinous. And since then, with the help of Betrayal Trauma Recovery through this process, and as I am safe in my new place, I’m now starting to process it even more.

Because I was so busy going through all the process of divorce and everything else. And due to all the coaches and the love and support, they have allowed me to have such great strength and realize I am worth it. I am enough. Betrayal Trauma Recovery is a lifesaver. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You helped save my life, and I am now free and safe.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #15: BTR Is A Beautiful Community Of Women

Betrayal Trauma Victim #15: I feel like being in BTR groups has been an opportunity for me to create some routine in my life, like something I can do every single day. As well as creating some structure and support in a life that I currently have, which is chaotic, unpredictable, and challenging. And I genuinely feel like I like meeting with all the coaches, because there are different perspectives. Each coach has a different vibe, that’s helpful. That’s been great.

I’m really happy. And I don’t think I’m going to stop anytime soon. A really beautiful community of women who’ve been doing it for a long time. It’s cool to see those connections and build them.

Victim #16 Can’t Say Enough About BTR

Betrayal Trauma Victim #16: I’ve been through this for over 30 years of dealing with this in my life. And I’ve been in BTR for five months. My life has changed more in the last five months than all those years I went through. Also, I appreciate the coaches, just the clarity that has helped me through a lot of individual sessions, group sessions, and all the coaches.

Everyone has something different. And all the shares help you understand other ways to do self care and stay safe. And I appreciate BTR. I can’t say enough about it. It changed my life.

Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: Victim #17: BTR Was An Answer To Prayer

Betrayal Trauma Victim #17: BTR was literally an answer to prayer for me. After disclosure, I really didn’t know what to think about my situation. After almost 30 years with my husband, I felt like I was brainwashed. I didn’t know what to do. And I prayed, and I did a Google search, and I found the podcast, and it literally changed my life.

After a year, I feel so much more empowered, connected and validated. I have so much clarity on the trauma I had been going through, and everything just started to make sense. I’m a completely different person than I was a year ago. I just love this group.

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