One of the most common things we hear from women new to the BTR.ORG community is how welcomed, safe, and validated they feel even on their first day.
Anyone who has suffered years or decades of emotional & psychological abuse and sexual coercion from their husband understands how important safety and empathy are to healing.
BTR.ORG Coaches come to Sessions on time and free from distractions and respectfully request that you do the same. Our Director of Coaching will periodically drop into Group and Individual Sessions to ensure client safety and coaching quality.
Because we don’t know what any other woman has experienced prior to attending BTR.ORG Group Sessions, we ask that all clients adhere to some general safety precautions so that each and every woman, no matter her situation or background, can feel secure in our midst.
Please review the Group Session Guidelines:
- Because safety is our first priority, BTR.ORG Coaches will not share your contact information with anyone or facilitate you sharing your contact information with anyone.
- When you attend a Group Session, you MUST be in a room alone. If others are in the home, please be in a different room and wear headphones to protect the safety of other Group Session Clients and your children. If you need to attend to something, please leave the Group Session and attend another session.
- First Name, Last Initial, and Video check upon Group Session entry is required. For your safety, list only your first name and last initial and be on camera to be accepted into the BTR.ORG Group Session. For every one’s safety, we must be able to identify you. Video must be on the entire time. For everyone’s safety, clients cannot put their personal contact info (last name, email or phone number) as their Zoom name. Clients who violate this policy will be removed from the Group Session.
- For everyone’s safety, you may not share your BTR.ORG Login, use a BTR.ORG Login that is not your own, or create a BTR.ORG Login for someone else. All BTR.ORG Group Session attendees must have their own BTR.ORG Client Login. Clients who violate this policy will be removed from the Group Session.
- BTR.ORG Group Session Clients are strictly prohibited from recording Group Sessions for any reason. Recording Sessions will result in immediate termination of access to BTR.ORG Group Sessions, without refund of any fees paid to date.
- We recommend women attend no more than one Group Session per day. We find that women who take what they learn and apply it in their daily lives progress more toward their safety. Similarly, we find women make more progress when they focus on taking classes to advance their career, or other such activities rather than attend multiple groups per day.
- Acknowledging that mental health professionals (i.e, counselors, coaches, mentors, advocates, podcasters, influencers working in the betrayal trauma or abuse field any capacity) are not immune to the pain of abuse and betrayal trauma, we’ve found that BTR.ORG Group Sessions aren’t an appropriate place for them to find support. Mental health professionals may schedule an individual session with any one of our coaches.
- Although we have a BTR.ORG Group Session schedule, BTR.ORG Coaches may change without notice.
- Our Sessions are a NO PORN ZONE and no masturbation zone. Our philosophy is that ALL porn/masturbation is damaging, so any mention that some porn/masturbation is or may be healthy creates a safety breach in our Group Sessions.
- Do not use swear words. Many clients have been abused with harsh language.
- Because women have frequently been emotionally and psychologically abused by gender dynamics, to provide a safe space, we specifically use the pronouns she/her to describe ourselves (victims) and he/him to describe abusers. If you’re uncomfortable using these pronouns in this way, please schedule an Individual Session rather than attending Group Sessions.
- Avoid graphic details during shares. Others may be triggered into a trauma response.
- No obvious use of alcohol. Many clients are in relationships with alcohol abusers.
- Be mindful of time. Everyone who wishes to share deserves equal opportunity to speak and get feedback.
- Some Group Sessions will not be held on holidays, such as: Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Years Eve, New Years Day, Mother’s Day, 4th of July
Having access to the BTR.ORG Group Sessions means that you will be charged $125 per month until you cancel through the BTR.ORG Client Login.
For that reason, if you don’t attend Group Sessions your monthly fee will remain active so you have access to the Group Sessions if/when you need it.
Although you can cancel your access to BTR.ORG Group Sessions at any time, the first payment and any monthly fees thereafter are non-refundable.
If you don’t want to be charged again, make sure you cancel your access to BTR.ORG Group Sessions before the next monthly fee occurs.
