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12 Ways To Spot Narcissistic Abuse

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12 Ways To Spot Narcissistic Abuse
  • Lying
  • Mood/behavior swings (treating you kindly and lovingly and then switching to cruel treatment without any warning)
  • Secret pornography use
  • Completely focused on his feelings and your behavior
  • Infidelity (emotional, virtual, and/or physical)
  • Gaslighting
  • Explosive Anger
  • Property Damage – punching walls, throwing things
  • Physical Intimidation
  • Insults, covert or overt
  • Being Secretive
  • Obsessing About Perceived Slights

Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Can Seek Safety

Through setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries, victims of abuse can protect themselves from harm. Boundaries are not statements, requests, or ultimatums. They are courageous actions that women take to protect themselves and their children from further abuse.

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  1. Bev Sterk

    so in your list of behaviors, consider adding manipulation/deception/secrecy with lying… and objectification, which I think the most grievous behavior/attitude of all is objectification of human beings made in the image of God, including objectifying themselves…

  2. Anne

    Thank you for sharing this info!

  3. Anne

    To me, if Heaven is where God lives, the reason why miserable people go to hell is because they cause pain and misery for everyone else. God only allows peaceful, healthy people into Heaven – because otherwise it wouldn’t be Heaven. By setting that boundary, God keeps all healthy, peaceful safe from the misery caused by selfish, abusive, or otherwise emotionally unhealthy people. At least, that’s my view of it.

    • Audrey

      “For by grace are ye saved through faith, it is the gift of God, not of works…”
      Ephesians 2:8-9a

  4. Anne

    No worries. I believe in a God who holds boundaries. But I understand your point of view.

  5. Janny

    I agree the theology is incorrect. Ladies search the scriptures and see what God has to say about heaven and hell. The book of Romans is a great place to start for this topic. Gods truth sets us all free to be the children of God, God wants us to be.
    Otherwise the content on this site is life giving. Thank you for all this information.



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