I’ve always wondered why my husband defends everyone but me, but when I discovered the reason, I was shocked.
1. My Husband Defends Everyone But Me Because He Wants To Maintain Power Over Me
My husband purposefully kept me less than, and his manipulation worked. It kept me spinning my wheels always trying to prove to him that I am lovable.
Because he defended everyone else, they viewed him as an amazing person. And felt sorry for him that his wife (me) wasn’t worthy of him.
2. He Wanted To Keep Me From Finding Out The Truth About Him
My husband had been hiding a double life for years. Through lying and gaslighting, he kept me from discovering his pornography use and infidelity.
All the lying and deception was emotionally and psychologically abusive. Take this free emotional abuse quiz to find out if your husband is emotionally abusive.
3. When Things Finally Came Out, He Wanted Everyone On His Side
When he filed for divorce so he could marry the woman he had an affair with, I was devastated. But because he’d thrown me under the bus all those years to all our friends and family, everyone took his side.
It’s shocking to realize the level of abuse you’ve experienced. To learn more about this type of abuse, listen to The Free Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.
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My husband defends everybody but me too!!! I never considered it could be that he’s having an affair or lying to me. Once I read this, I checked him computer search history and you won’t believe what I found – he was having an affair! I’ve been listening to your podcast, it’s amazing. Thank you so much! You’ve really opened my eyes!
I have a fiance– Well when he goes on vacation alone for two weeks we are no longer engaged! then comes back and oh you misunderstood me! Howev er when we do once a year together he NEVER defends me against this one woman! She constantly is nasty to me. I mean really nasty. When I tell him about a bad thing that happened with my mother– he defends her also. I want to leave but am afraid. he did tell me I will never be first priority. Get use to it he said.