Betrayal Is Domestic Abuse

by | Abuse Literacy

What is domestic violence

[Betrayal] needs to be addressed from a focal point of domestic abuse. Within that context is the only way to appropriately approach this type of situation without re-harming, or re-traumatizing the victim of the chronic manipulation.

Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Women who have been intimately betrayed by a partner, whether through a sexual or emotional affair, pornography use, or other sexual acting out behaviors, are victims of domestic abuse. That is why it hurts so much.

How Does Betrayal Affect Women?

The effects of betrayal trauma can be debilitating. Physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual consequences may include:

  • A loss of self-esteem
  • Sleep difficulties and irregularity
  • Eating too much or too little
  • Depression and/or anxiety
  • Loss of faith in spiritual beliefs

There are many more symptoms of betrayal trauma. But just this short list alone shows how deeply betrayal impacts victims.

Help For Unhealthy Responses To Betrayal

Tragically, many victims do not have the support and safety that they need to make healthy decisions while they are so deeply entrenched in trauma. Some behaviors that women may engage in to numb the pain include:

  • Using alcohol or drugs
  • Uncharacteristic sexual behaviors
  • Self-harm
  • Harsh behaviors toward children and others
  • Changing appearance for a reaction from the unfaithful partner

Empowerment through education, support, self-care, and boundaries can help women begin to respond in healthy ways to betrayal trauma.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Domestic Abuse

At BTR, we know just how excruciating betrayal can be. The unrelenting heartbreak. The loss of trust. The crushed dreams. However, there is hope.

The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group meets daily in every time zone and offers victims a community of other women who understand trauma and want to heal. Join today and find the support, validation, and unconditional love that you deserve as you begin your journey to healing.

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  1. Carolina

    It felt like you held my hand and walked me through it.. especially when u put the”compete” part.. and the chain of regrets that i had.. Not to mention alcohol addiction, ear piercings.. etc.Thank you!!

    • Anne Blythe

      I’m so glad it was helpful:). You’re brave and strong and you can have the peaceful life you deserve!! Hugs!!

  2. Lisa

    Thank you so much for this information, very helpful!


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