Have you been searching for the best support for betrayal trauma? Do you feel alone, scared, heartbroken, and sick over the betrayal and the consequences of his emotional abuse?
Victims of betrayal and abuse deserve a safe space to process trauma, openly speak truths, ask hard questions, and receive validation. What is the best betrayal trauma support group? Here are 4 things to look for . . .
1. Is Your Emotional & Psychologial Safety The Top Priority?
The best betrayal trauma support group will make your safety the top priority. No matter if you’ve discovered your husband’s betrayal today or been on your healing journey for decades.
Here are some indications that a betrayal trauma support group isn’t safe:
- They don’t identify what the trauma is from
- They don’t identify you as a victim of emotional and psychological abuse
- You’re encouraged to not make any decisions that would distance yourself from the abuser
- Maybe they ask you to ignore what your husband is doing that is harming you
Here are some indications that the betrayal trauma support group IS safe:
- No one cares about what’s going to happen to the abuser or how you getting to safety will affect him.
- You are validated.
- The other women in the group have been through what you’ve been through, and so they understand it on a very personal level.
- You’re not made to feel like your deficient or that you did anything wrong.
In our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions, abuse is abuse. We’ll never blame you for any of it.
2. They Do Not Offer Services For Abusive Men
Before you start attending a support group for betrayal trauma, make sure the professional you’re going to doesn’t offer services for abusive men. True experts on emotional and psychological abuse know that working with abuse victims AND abusers simultaneously is unethical
If any therapist or program lets you know that they offer services for abusive men, you can know that’s not a support group for betrayal trauma that will be safe for you.
3. No One Will Ask You To Look Into What Part You Played
Unlike traditional addiction therapists, we do not use the codependency model. We use the abuse model. This means we’ll never label you “codependent.” Too many therapists and clergy focus their energies on blaming the victim, rather than accurately treating the betrayal as abuse.
If you go to a support group for betrayal trauma, and anyone there even suggests you played some part in your own emotional and psychological abuse, this is not a group that understands abuse.
To avoid a support group that blames the victim, before you go, ask someone who goes to the group what the “trauma” you need a support group for is from. If they don’t say emotional and psychological abuse and coercion, don’t try to convice them. Just move on.
4. They Trust You To Follow Your Own Intuition
If the betrayal trauma support group mentions or implies that you’re too sick or diseased or weak to follow your own intuition, it’s not ethically run.
One of the hallmarks for abuse is undermining a woman’s confidence. If they’re telling to you “trust” them or they know better than you, look elsewhere.
Women make a lot of progress by enrolling in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop that gives women lessons and exercises to get back in touch with theselves, so they can make decisions that are in their best interest.
If you’re looking for the best betrayal trauma support group, Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions are facilitated by specially trained betrayal trauma specialists who understand this type of abuse. We’d love to see you in a Session TODAY.
Transcript: The Best Support For Betrayal Trauma
On this week’s episode, I asked women their thoughts about the best support for betrayal trauma. betrayal trauma share their experiences with our coaches to see if Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session Clients would want to stay after their group session and share their feelings and experiences with our podcast listeners. Some of them wanted to talk, and others wanted to write their thoughts and have me read them. Additionally I’m also going to read some reviews that we’ve received.
When Therapy for Betrayal Trauma Falls Short
Betrayal Trauma Victim #1: I had been to three therapists who told me it was all my fault and I needed to go do my family of origin work and stop trying to control my husband, but my husband was just continuing to stomp all over everything that was sacred that I was trying to build with him.
He and the therapist and I were sitting there. I felt like there was a severed artery. It’s just spewing all over and nobody’s saying a word, and it felt just like gaslighting to me. I think therapy was very abusive because three different therapists in that codependent model were telling me those things.
It’s infuriating that women are made to feel this way when they’re trying to get help. That’s all we did for the last two to three years we were together was S groups and CSATs it just got worse. Everybody was like, read this book, and I was like, um, I don’t need a book. I need help. I felt this mentality too that like, we’re gonna go to therapy and everything is gonna get fixed, and that’s just kind of ridiculous.
We have to feel safe and we have to feel heard, and we have to feel valued, and I did not feel any of that until I found BTR.
Gift Of Finding Betrayal Trauma Recovery
I listened to the BTR podcast for about four years. The betrayal trauma support group combined with the podcast were the two things that saved my life. I’m so filled with gratitude.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #2: after how many years of being in the codependent model therapy groups out there, and I don’t wanna name them, but they’re basically following the alcohols anonymous. Models recommended by my husband’s CSAT
I’ve done years of research and going through different rabbit holes, even suffering trauma from a very invasive local, so-called Betrayal trauma CSAT.
I Googled, betrayal trauma support and discovered BTR. I listened to the BTR podcast and I said, I’ve, I’ve gotta join the group. I’ve gotta join the group. I’ve done all the other groups. It doesn’t hurt to try. Right? I’ve tried. I’ve paid so many memberships and I’ve been to so many meetings, so I know it’s not out there except on BTR. To finally find an online group, and it’s really the only one, where you actually have the most educated well-trained coaches who actually facilitate the group. ’cause I’ve had to stop attending another group because they allowed cursing and the rules were not really well thought out.
Finding The Best Structured Support For Betrayal Trauma
So to have a group that has structure, that has guidance, the safety protocols and the anonymity. Is the best investment that you can make especially for betrayal trauma.
To hear yourself in the stories of others. The coaches have been through trauma themselves. That to me was just such a huge bonus to actually speak to women who’ve been through what you’ve gone through and they’ve survived and they’re thriving, and now they’re helping all of us to have all of that in one package.
It’s not about being ready because in trauma you’re always gonna feel like you’re not ready. So it’s almost like you’ve just got to take that medication that you need right now, even though you don’t feel like taking it. It’s the medication that you need, like as we speak, and it’s the most healing. No one’s here to judge you. No one has you under a microscope. You know everybody’s very much in your shoes. Walking the same journey. You’ll find yourself finally healing. And it is one day at a time, one session at a time, one coach at a time.
If you’ve just discovered your husband’s infidelities, whatever it is that you’ve just discovered. IT’s not too late if you are 10 years after discovery, and even if you’re divorced or separated, or even widowed, but you’re still suffering from the trauma and you still wanna heal. BTR has the best way to explain betrayal trauma and treat it.
You wanna connect heart to heart and mind to mind with other women. Connecting with the BTR coaches, that’s my lifeline too sanity and serenity. At the same time. I’m a mother of eight children, and my children need me. I need them to know that they can conquer this and build beautiful, successful lives. We are worth it.
BTR: Finding Safety, Value & Growth
Betrayal Trauma Victim #3: my whole life, you know, I’ve been told what I’m feeling and what my intentions are. I’ve been searching my whole life to try to figure out what was going on because there’s always that part of me that told me that.
There’s something deeper going on, up until BTR, I didn’t know what the truth was. and this group has changed my life. This is a group that actually helps women recover from betrayal trauma. could finally find a place where I could identify what was going on. I feel a lot more empowered because of this group, I feel because of this group, I’m gonna get my life back. the coaches and all the women being vulnerable and speaking their truths, this group gave me safety and the chance to decide for myself what I want.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #4: When I first discovered BTR on the podcast, I felt. All of a sudden validated, I’d felt not alone.
It took me a while, several months actually, to join the BTR group, honestly, because I was afraid that I would just become an angry, bitter woman who hated men. And I found that to be absolute opposite of what has happened. I have felt completely empowered. I have felt validated. I’ve felt heard.
I’ve felt seen. When I couldn’t see myself. Yeah. It’s the very best thing that’s happened to me.
The Power Of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions
Betrayal Trauma Victim #5: I did think I was alone, um, and so isolated for over two decades BTR groups have definitely helped me know that I am not the only one who has experienced, um, emotional and psychological abuse and coercion. Finding the group and hearing so much of my story in other women’s stories has really helped me feel connected and less isolated and I am able to make plans and know exactly what I’m doing to help my life move forward. The groups I’m coaching have really changed me. I am so grateful.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #6: The skills that I’ve learned in BTR and the education that I’ve gotten has transitioned to so many areas of life that I am able to use the restored intuition. I have to see these people who feel entitled to my life, my skills, my story.
To use for themselves, and I’m grateful I have those skills.
Women Who Found The Best Support For Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal Trauma Victim #7: For me, The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop has been so beneficial. Going through that workshop, seeing the visualization, and building upon what I had already learned in groups took me from a place of being stuck to moving me to where I know God is carrying me and gonna take me. Also, just understanding the past 20 years of my life and why, like why I became stuck, and now that I’m out of that cave, I’m never going back because at this point I’m living in the light.
And once you’re in the light. It’s not gonna happen anymore. The workshop it’s taken me to the next level. So thank you.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #8: I did not have knowledge of what was going on in my life and how I was being abused to the extent I was. I am very grateful to BTR. thank you, Anne for your podcast.
BTR coaches have given me courage to continually move forward and strengthen me and guide me. They’ve saved my life. The encouragement has been incredible. I am just beyond blessed, and I couldn’t have done this without the BTR coaches. They have been a godsend.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #9: BTR has been amazing for not just me, but my family, because it’s provided a safe place for myself and then also my mom to process the abuse happening in our respective relationships and get to safety,
so I’m extremely grateful for BTR and all the coaches here
The Impact Of BTR On Family And Friends
Betrayal Trauma Victim #10: Some of the things I’ve heard through 10 years of therapy with my husband . Like, what are you doing? Or , how can you support him more? And even, why are you crying?
This has nothing to do with you. Minimizing I spent a year with one therapist trying to explain, giving her books. Another therapist, he’s like, how can you keep him from getting access. I had no idea
BTR Group Sessions have been amazing for me. To get on every day if I need to, not being blamed for something out of your control that a grown adult person is doing to you. The BTR Podcast makes sense. I’m thankful. Thankful is an understatement. Just god bless.
Thank you so much.
Betrayal Trauma Victim #11: BTR Group Sessions for me have allowed me to feel less alone and be inspired by amazing women.
Coaches Are The Best Support For Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal Trauma Victim #12: For me, BTR Group Sessions have been with me through the entire process, from first figuring out what was going on in my life to navigating post-separation issues and custody issues. I just cannot put enough value on practical advice, emotional support, and community with other women.
So,it’s really helped.
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I have been trying to deal with my husbands 7-year affair for two years and it is not going well. I am so miserable and depressed! I need more than the counselor I saw for a year.
We’re here for you and this is our area of expertise. Here’s the link to the Group Session Schedule, we’re online everyday to help you right away.
I’ve been looking for support for betrayal trauma. (I discovered his hotel rendezvous photos..and dropped to my knees). We’ve been together 19 years. He then openly told me the marriage was over anyway, and spent two more weekends with his “soulmate” and coming back home on Monday. I was destroyed, am destroyed, hands shaking like I have Parkinsons. I barely have the strength to go to work. I do have a counselor but she’s not specialized in betrayal trauma and it doesn’t seem to be helping. I’m so glad I found a good online support group!
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Our organization and groups are for women only, but we understand! Well wishes on your search for healing. We believe healing is possible for everyone!
My husband has had 4 affairs that I know about. Each lasted at least a year before I caught on. The last time was with a repeat partner and I caught on within a month. Needless to say I am devastated, feel extremely stupid and naive and angry. Fortunately, this time, my children are grown and I will not continue in the marriage. I am looking for a group to help me deal with my hurt, anger, and regret for what could have been. We have been married for 31 years. We met at 13 and have been together ever since. We are now 52. His girlfriend is 36 with 5 kids. We have four adult children.
I’m so sorry. Our daily, online support group has multiple sessions a day in every time zone.
Been married to narcissistic husband for 22 years. He destroyed my career and cheated on me with my best friend. I have no family and we are very isolated since moving for his work. He finally cut his abusive father out of our life but not before the damage was done. I just want to find purpose again. I don’t want to be yelled at, ignored, or hit ever again. I honestly crave solitude.
I’m battling a chronic neurological disease and have had multiple strokes. Needless to say but my running days are over. I don’t think I’m ever getting out. I’d just like some dignity. I was excellent at my job. It was my life’s purpose.
I need support.
I am interested in talkign to other women who have experienced betrayal trauma.
Our online support group for women who have experienced Betrayal Trauma is the right place to start. Click on that link and you can join. We’d love to see you in a session today!
Hello, I am not sure if my experience fits your site.
I am six months out from a very abrupt jettisoning by my partner of 10 years. My home is about 8 miles from his, and on October 13th, 2024 , after living with him for a decade, and frequently returning to my place just for chores, he told me I ” needed to go back to living in my house…at least for 3 or 4 months…” This was totally out of the blue, and it was as though he had dropped a bomb on me. I stood in his kitchen, so stunned I could
barely speak. He was absolutely empathy- free, and this was totally new behavior. He told me it has “nothing to do with you, but is about my selfish notions and pre- death things I still want to do, but I need to do them alone.” But the wild card here, is that he had started a medical regimen of hefty steroid dosing, and was, on Oct 13th, on his tenth day of three months of medication, and it totally reversed his personality, which was normally fun, witty, and charming.
Also, he had met a new woman, seated next to him on a plane trip back from L.A. , which was on October 12th, the day prior to my eviction. I recognized the steroid side effect of “pressured speech” which he showed when talking about her, on the drive back home after I picked him up from the airport. I could tell he already was obsessed with her, but he did not mention her at all in his eviction speech to me. But I think the speech he gave me was just a cover story to access her. It took several days of lugging all, or most all of my things, back to my place, and during this time he continued with his steroid personality, and seemed intent on erasing all signs of my presence. Soon I saw a different car, overnight on the weekends, in his parking lot.
I am still as shell-shocked today as on October 13th, and I can’t seem to progress much. And I don’t know if he ever changed back to his normal personality, or not.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Women find our professionally facilitiated Group Sessions to be the best support for betrayal trauma. Check out our Group Session Schedule. We’d love to see you in a Group TODAY.
I am interested in the online Support Group.
Visit btr.org/support-group to see our daily, online support group schedule for victim’s of betrayal.
I really really need this asap!!! I live in BC. Canada. Please get in touch right away.
All our sessions are online, so they’re available from anywhere. Click here to see our daily, online support group schedule for victim’s of emotional abuse.
I would like to attend BTR group sessions. How do I do that?
We’re so glad you found us! Visit: http://www.btr.org/group
I submitted a comment but got no reply. I am very much interested in a support group tp hel me get through the PTSD of infidelity and betrayal. This is my husbands second affair with this same woman but this time it lasted 7 years. This was 2 years ago. I agreed to try And start over but I am so depressed and cannot stop thinking about their sexual relationship. I’m obsessed. Please help me.
Hi, yes, here’s a link to our Group Session Schedule. We’re online everyday to help you.
I just found out my husband has been having an affair. He’s not sure if he wants to stay in the marriage and I’m devastated.
I’m so sorry. We’re here for you. Have you considered joining our daily, online support group for women who just discovered their husband had an affair?
Can i please be notified about the betrayal trauma support group?
Our daily, online group for victims of betrayal, emotional abuse, sexual coercion is multiple times a day in every single time zone. Click for more information:).
Hi I’m looking for support after betrayal.
Welcome! A great place to start is by joining our daily, online support group for victims of betrayal. Hugs!
Hi, I’m looking for support/advice for infidelity. Suspecting my husband (again) and enough is enough. I think it’s been on/off for years too.
You’ve come to the right place.
Any of our coaches will be able to help. You can schedule an individual session by clicking here. Or you can join our daily, online support group by click here. Welcome. Hugs.
I came across this page looking for some answers about things I’ve experienced from my husband for 20 yrs. Betrayed me with a woman we both worked with. I would like to know if I can get involved in groups or anything that I can connect with others that feel like I do. I would appreciate it!
Yes! You’ve come to the right place. We get it. Our daily, online support group is the place for women to share and get support. It occurs several times a day in every time zone.
Too bad that church leaders, police, and therapists are not on the list of those who are the best support. The Therapist I went ended up being a good old boys club, as did the police…and they believed his lies. The therapist was screaming at me and accusing me of having Affair when I had not done anything of the sort. The church leader told me I was going to hell if I divorced- and he ignored all of the abuse that he was told about. Although I managed to make it through and get my kids out of the abusive situation, your organization has helped assure me that I made right decisions and help me heal . Thank you!
I’m looking for a betrayal support group. I don’t have a website.
Try Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions. These sessions are the best support for betrayal trauma!
Hello,
Im interested in joining a support group. I recently found out my husband has been cheating on me. I have good and bad days. But most days I feel numb, sad and hurt. I’ve tried to date that didn’t work. I’ve tried to be more talkative and no one knows what to say. Im at a lost and I don’t know if I’ve accepted the situation or just frustrated and overwhelmed.
We recommend women attend our daily, online BTR Group sessions facilitated by our specially trained coaches. There are so many women who have found support and help there.
This is the thing. It seems we are living in a society that is promoting infidelity and cheating.
I had subscribed or was getting emails from a psychology website to cope with all this and at the bottom there was an article on open marriage as if it’s a good thing and some guy who is promoting it and how to address it and saying it’s the women who need to open up and allow it and be part of it I could not believe what I was reading.
It showed an image of a s woman in the middle of two men and holding hands with both and it was something to do with Ashley Madison etc
Is this really what our society has come to?
All it does is further traumatize..
I deleted the site and unsubscribed
And it was a psychologist female also as part of this.
Wow, that’s crazy. It’s hard to understand why people chose harm and chaos over peace.
Yes, so many people talk about abuse as if it’s just some choice women make.
I had no ability to make a choice because the truth was kept from me. My husband was so secretive, he lied and hid everything from me. He’s never told me even one hint of truth, blames me and or tries to make it all our problems a “couple” problem. His friends and family even lied to me. It’s hard to wrap your head around abuse and lies when the community seems complicit and knows what’s going on but I don’t.He blamed me throughout the years. He has so many moral integrity issues. I can’t trust him. It’s been a nightmare. I can’t figure out why he wants to stay married. He’s living a double life.
He wasn’t not with me ever since the first part of the marriage. I know I can’t go back and that he isn’t normal. I get triggered when I read about infidelity. Because it was so traumatizing to have him not be intimate with me, but getting it elsewhere while still expecting me to stay in the marriage. He lied to me so I would hug him and be close to him, even though he didn’t want it with me.
I have some health issue and so it makes it more difficult to move forward as easily. He was sneaky and my point is the betrayal and games are so emotionally abusive for me to cope with. I almost feel like he’s possessed. His choices don’t bring peace, joy, happiness or contentment, much less stability.
This betrayal trauma recovery group made a huge difference for me!!
I went to other betrayal trauma groups but they victim blamed and didn’t see it as abuse. It’s nice to hear that other women have had this same experience.
Thanks for sharing your experiences with betrayal trauma recovery groups! These women are brave to share.
Hi, found out my husband has been using an escort service for the past year 😢. Looking for a group of women who also r going through it.
Yes, our groups are online daily. Go here to check out the session schedule: btr.org/group