It’s difficult to get the appropriate help and support when everyone hears your husband say you’re crazy.
You feel crazy, but you know you’re not.
He betrayed you.
But how do you explain your experience to others when you barely understand it yourself?
Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, introduces her new picture book for adults, Trauma Mama Husband Drama.
Combined with the beautiful illustrations of Cristalwolf Lobazul, Trauma Mama Husband Drama,provides simple explanations for the emotional and psychological abuse that comes with pornography addiction.
Trauma Mama Becomes An Idea
The idea for Trauma Mama came to Anne during a conversation with fellow sheroes.
“I was hanging out with a few sheroes and we were joking around. I said, ‘Trauma Mama, feeling sad.’ Everyone laughed and I thought, ‘That’s it, I’m going to write this book.’”-Anne Blythe, author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama
In Anne’s work, she often hears stories of women trying to teach clergy, therapists, family and friends about betrayal trauma and emotional and psychological abuse.
Many of the books available to educate support people are a couple hundred pages long and can become boring and tedious if the reader isn’t really interested in learning about the subject, so Anne decided a picture book for adults would be a unique approach to educating others.
“If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it.”-Anne Blythe, author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama
As Anne began her work on this book, she searched for an illustrator.
The illustrator, Cristalwolf Lobazul from Brazil, is also an abuse survivor and, when Anne met Cristalwolf, things just clicked and she knew that this illustrator was the one who could help her deliver the message.
“I can’t even put into words what a miracle it was to find her because there were a lot of other artists that I got samples from but nothing was quite jiving. Then, I met Cristalwolf Lobazul and we really clicked. I’m so grateful for her hard work. We worked really hard on all the little details to make sure it was really saying what we wanted it to say.”-Anne Blythe, author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama
The work began.
Trauma Mama Comes To Life
A year and a half later, Trauma Mama Husband Drama is ready.
Set to release on June 1, 2020, Trauma Mama Husband Drama is already available for pre-order on Amazon, so order your copy today. You can also find the link to the Amazon page by going to btr.org/books.
Anne is also working on a non-fiction book that uses stories from real victims and other evidence to explain how pornography use is abusive to a spouse.
If you’re struggling to explain your experience or situation to others, BTR offers many resources.
One of those resources is Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group, which provides a safe place to share your experience with other women facing similar circumstances. With UNLIMITED access to more than 15 live sessions a week, it’s easier than ever to find a BTR Group session that fits your schedule without having to leave your home. Each session is led by a Certified Betrayal Trauma Specialist.
Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne.
Some of you know that I’ve been working on a picture book for adults, called Trauma Mama Husband Drama, for a while. It is finally finished and we are currently pre-selling the book on Amazon. You can order it now and you’ll receive it when it launches. Again, it’s called Trauma Mama Husband Drama, by me, Anne Blythe. You can find it on Amazon.
Please go there today and pre-order this book. If we can get a lot of pre-orders, it makes a difference on how Amazon views the book. If we get a ton of pre-orders, then it kicks it up and makes it more visible.
Another thing that helps is, when you receive your copy of the book, it will be a verified purchase and if you go to your Amazon account and give it a five-star rating, that makes a huge difference, too. The more five-star ratings we can get, the better this book will do on Amazon, and the more educated people can get about this type of abuse in relation to pornography use.
When you pre-order Trauma Mama Husband Drama, please order multiple copies. One for you, one for clergy, and perhaps one for your local library. Order enough copies so you can give it out to people. This book needs to be passed around neighborhoods and through congregations.
I’m also writing a non-fiction book, that’s approximately 300 pages, about how pornography use is abusive to a spouse. The 300-page—it could be 380, I’m not sure what the final page number is going to be—that book is very detailed, and its long and it has a lot of examples from victims, which is great.
If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it. It came about when I was hanging out with a few sheroes and we were joking around. I said, “Trauma Mama, feeling sad.” Everyone laughed and I thought, “That’s it, I’m going to write this book.”
The way that I found the illustrator was an absolute miracle. She is also an abuse survivor. She lives in Brazil. I won’t go into how I found her, but it was an absolute miracle. She’s an amazing artist and turned out to be the right one for the job.
I can’t even put into words what a miracle it was to find her because there were a lot of other artists that I got samples from, to see if their work would work. Just nothing was quite jiving, and this particular woman, her name is Cristalwolf Lobazul, we really clicked and I’m so grateful for her hard work. It’s taken about a year and a half to create this picture book. We worked really hard on all the little details to make sure that it was really saying what we wanted it to say.
At the back of the book are a bunch of BTR infographics that really help people understand this type of abuse. We’ve got the Power and Control Wheel, we have the Abuse Cycle, we have all those things that can help you understand what is happening to you in a visual way.
This podcast is helpful to people, but there’s something about having this physical book, that’s visual, to help process it as well. It’s a different way of learning, it’s a different way of processing. Go to Amazon today and order it. You can also get to that link from our Books page. If you go to btr.org/books, there’s a section of Books by Anne. You can click on that and it will send you to Amazon to pre-order.
I’m going to keep today’s podcast really short because it’s simply a call to action. I am grateful for those of you who will go immediately to order this book. Thank you for your support. Thank you for those who support the podcast on a monthly basis by doing monthly support from our website, which is btr.org. You go to the bottom and click on Support the Podcast.
All of you listeners make a huge difference. The podcast downloads have increased exponentially over the years and I’m honored that the podcast has so many listeners. I’m actually blown away and grateful, and grateful that you are part of this mission to educate women about pornography use as an abuse issue and sexual coercion as an abuse issue, so thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Until next week, stay safe out there.