Here’s how to set boundaries with your emotionally abusive husband.
How To Set Boundaries With Your Emotionally Abusive Husband
Some power phrases that victims can use as they work toward freedom include:
- I am capable of making good decisions
- I know what is best for myself
- I give myself permission to take however long I need to when making decisions
- I am patient with myself when I struggle with making choices
Becoming Uncontrollable
Victims can set safety boundaries wtih their emotionally abusive husband. Support, self-care, and education about trauma and abuse can help victims work toward the safety they need to become uncontrollable.
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I just want to encourage you. I know it feels like you are so very vulnerable to your abuser through your children. I share that feeling and concern in my situation. Especially since you are seeing things already that show you that he is not serious about making decisions in the best interests of your children, I want to share something that I did that might give you the best chance at a leg to stand on. Calling again on the best interests of the children as reasoning, (which he wants to maintain is his focus) and amending the last judgement to include this if possible, consider suggesting a Parenting Coordinator. I got recommendations from my attorney on PCs that would be most likely to be able to see manipulation and coercion.
PC’s can help make sure the agreements made in the decree/judgement are being implemented well and in the best interests of the children, and be a deciding vote to settle differences of opinion.
I know the pain you are experiencing well. I hope this can help in some way. Please know you have another Mama in your corner that understands and is lifting you up!