What To Expect From Your Betrayal Trauma Recovery Experience
If you’ve had it with your husband’s pornography / sexual addiction and related behaviors, such as lies, infidelity, gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors, Betrayal Trauma Recovery is for you.
How Do The Coaching Sessions Work?
All of the calls take place on Zoom - it's an app you can download onto your phone. When you schedule, you'll be emailed a link. At the appointed time, just click on that link.
What To Expect From Your Betrayal Trauma Recovery Coaching Experience
The process of healing is a process. Many of us took years to understand that the conventional therapeutic approaches were not helping us. Our trauma was often exacerbated by the harmful advice of professionals who didn't understand our situation. That's why we're here. Because when we were at the end of our rope and had nowhere else to turn, we found a model that works for us.
All of the coaches at Betrayal Trauma Recovery utilize the APSATS’ Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (M-PTM), equipping us to support women through three distinct phases of healing from betrayal trauma. With this unifying foundation, we collaborate to provide our BTR clients with a sense of safety, consistency and predictability.
So, what CAN you anticipate when working with any one of our BTR coaches?
In EVERY single session, expect your coach to:
- Provide a safe space to process your trauma, experience compassion, and receive validation for everything you’re feeling and facing.
- Help you regain your own strength, clarity and sense of direction.
- Support you with absolutely NO AGENDA of her own—offering instead only patience, empathy, and tools to help you uncover your own truth, for your own sake.
In sessions during your first phase, Safety & Stabilization, expect your coach to help you:
- Identify your most urgent needs.
- Assess your network of "safe people,” those upon whom you can lean for support.
- Work toward stabilizing your relationships, specifically in terms of emotional, mental, physical and sexual safety.
- Learn techniques to ground yourself, especially during moments when your trauma is triggered.
- Recognize your most frequent or significant triggers, then create healthy boundaries to remove, reduce or respond to them.
In sessions during your second phase of your recovery - the Grieving & Processing phase - expect your coach to help you:
- Accept yourself and where you're at within the process of grief and recovery.
- Articulate the specific things you’ve lost, in relation to sexual abandonment, addiction and/or abusive behavior.
- Recognize the different ways grief manifests within survivors of betrayal trauma.
- Experience and process the pain in healthy (versus harmful) ways.
- Leverage the grief to move yourself through the trauma and toward long-term healing.
In sessions during your third phase of your recovery - the Rebuilding & Reconnection phase - expect your coach to help you:
- Reclaim parts of yourself you’ve lost through your experience of betrayal trauma
- Reorient yourself within a new, post-traumatic reality
- Reconnect with others—often in new ways, supported by new boundaries and new priorities
- Rebuild the kind of life you want to live moving forward, with new convictions, purpose and passions.
Bottom line? WE GET IT. As women recovering from betrayal trauma, we balance a strong need for predictability (no more surprises, please!) with a sense of cautious openness to whatever comes next. That’s one of the reasons you can email any of our coaches.