Have you felt afraid, confused, embarrassed, or frustrated by your husband’s anger? Have you asked yourself, “Does my husband have an anger problem?” You may wonder if what you’re experiencing is normal, or if it’s actually emotional & psychological abuse. To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz.

What Came First? The Anger or the Abuse?

At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, your safety is the priority. Trying to determine if your husband has an anger issue. Why he is so angry, or how to help him become a peaceful man, is secondary to your own peace.

Abusive men can generally control their anger in public, then unleash it on their victims privately. When victims spend time and effort trying to diagnose or determine the root cause of the abuser’s anger issues. They rarely find satisfying answers, and instead experience more abuse.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Can Help You Find Safety

Processing the trauma that has come from your husband’s anger issue is important. In fact Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions are a safe space for you to share your experiences, feelings, and ask questions.

Transcript: Does My Husband Have An Anger Problem?

Anne: It’s just me today, I’m talking about anger. If your husband is always angry. So for a long time in my marriage, I thought my husband had an “anger problem.” And I wanted him to go to anger management. Then he went to several anger courses on how to manage his anger. In fact, we even went to Steven Stosny’s anger boot camp in Maryland. None of these things did anything for him, because he didn’t have an anger issue.

He used anger to assert control, because what he had was an abuse problem. So when it comes to anger, here are some questions to ask to discover if his anger is emotional or psychological abuse. Because if you answer yes to any of these questions, the likelihood that he’s abusive is quite high.

To determine his actual character is rather complex. That’s why I developed The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop. This workshop will help you understand if the anger is coming from abuse, and if he is abusive, it will teach you emotional and psychological safety strategies. Here are the 10 ways to know if his anger is abusive.

10 Signs Of Abusive Anger

Anne:

1. I have, I often felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by his anger.

2. Am I afraid to upset my husband for fear he would leave me?

3. Have I sometimes searched for clues about why my husband is angry?

4. Has he ever made threats? Now these threats can be very, very subtle. Oh, come on, touch is my love language. And I get so depressed if I don’t feel love. That threat is basically, have sex with me or I’ll sulk all day and I won’t help you with housework.

5. Have you ever tried to control his anger? Meaning do something to either stop him from being angry in the first place or stop him from being angry.

6. How often have I lied to others or myself about his anger?

7. Have I felt confused or enabled to separate what is true and what is not true when he’s angry.

8. Have you ever used a sex to smooth over your husband’s anger? Or to preemptively stop him from becoming angry.

9. Have you ever felt abandoned emotionally because of your husband’s anger?

10. Have you often thought other people caused your angry husband’s behavior and not a choice that he made?

Does Your Husband Have An Anger Problem: Steps & Resources

Anne: Because again, if you answered yes to any of these questions. The likelihood of your husband being emotionally and psychologically abusive is high. Does your husband have an anger problem? Find support through emotional abuse support groups online.

Yes, in that case, continue listening to The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. This podcast, to get more information about this type of abuse. So that you can determine if that’s your situation.