What Happens When You Leave an Emotional Abuser – What You Need To Know

Here's how to move toward emotional safety with or without divorce.

It’s hard to make a decision when you can’t predict what happens when you leave an emotional abuser.

If you’re considering leaving, it’s important to take things one step at a time. Here are 3 steps to guide you.

Step 1: Recognizing the Abuse

Understanding emotional abuse is the first step to getting help and staying safe. Emotional abuse can be hard to spot because it doesn’t leave bruises or scars like physical abuse. It can include things like making you feel like you’re crazy (gaslighting), blaming you for everything, or acting like your feelings don’t matter. Here are some signs of emotional abuse to look out for:

  • Being made to feel like you’re “too sensitive”
  • Having your feelings dismissed or downplayed
  • Being lied to or having promises frequently broken
  • Feeling controlled or manipulated through guilt or fear

To discover if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Step 2: Identifying Your Emotional Safety Needs

If you discover he’s emotionally abusive, the next step is to figure out what you need for emotional and physical safety.

Listening to other women share how they faced their husband’s emotional abuse can help you know what to do next. Listen to The Free Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast to hear women’s stories of overcoming emotional abuse.

Step 3: Learning Emotional Safety Strategies

It’s important to learn ways to stay safe, no matter what you decide to do next. People who are emotionally abusive might act worse when they feel like they’re losing control. Knowing how they behave can help you protect yourself.

The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop teaches thought, communication and boundary strategies for victims.

Sadly, many people don’t know they need a safety strategies until things get really stressful. It’s better to know ahead of time what to do so you can avoid problems later.

What To Expect If You Leave An Emotional Abuser

Leaving doesn’t mean all the problems are gone, but it’s the first step to building a better life. Here’s what often happens after leaving someone who hurts you emotionally:

  1. Feelings of Fear and Relief

It’s okay to feel lots of emotions—like being scared because things are new or feeling glad to be out of a bad situation. Take your time to get used to your new life.

Secrets to Leaving an Abusive Marriage

If you have kids together, he might keep causing problems in other ways. You’ll need help. If he keeps making things hard, attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.

  1. Pushback From the Abuser or Others

Some abusers may try to regain control by making false promises to change or manipulating mutual friends or family members.

Some may cause chaos to manipulate you to message or call them.

Keep using the strategies you learned in the Living Free Workshop, and he’ll see that lying and trying to trick you won’t work anymore.

  1. The Necessity Of Finding The Right Support

Healing from emotional abuse takes time, but having a community of supportive women to walk with you makes a big difference.

The women in Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions are a safe support you can count on.

Once you leave emotional abuse, you’ll have space to create a live of peace and safety. .

You don’t have to go through it alone. We’re anxious to help you.

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