Do you feel crazy? Do family and friends minimize the damage of your partner’s porn use? Have you tried speaking to clergy, only for them to blame you for your partner’s abusive choices?
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama is a picture book for adults, written by Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This book was created to validate women, educate clergy and family members, and empower all to hold abusers accountable for their behaviors. Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast for more.
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Will Help You Explain The Betrayal To Clergy
Too many religious leaders re-traumatize victims when victims reach out for help because of their partner’s porn use.
Anne Blythe, founder of BTR, created Trauma Mama, Husband Drama, in part to support women as they meet with clergy.
If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it.Anne Blythe, author of Trauma Mama, Husband Drama
Women can bring this book with them when they meet with clergy. Women can also give this book to religious leaders to help educate them for future situations where they may meet with victims who need their compassionate and “woke” help and support.
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Validates Victims Within Themselves
Ever wonder if you are overreacting, expecting too much, imagining things, or just plain crazy?
Abusive men (including porn users) condition women to blame and berate themselves. When abusers gaslight their partners, women have difficulty detecting reality and often believe that it’s their own intelligence, mental health, or emotional stability that is causing reality to feel so disorienting.
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama helps delineate the truth about the chaos, abusiveness, and fear that women experience when their partners use pornography. This book validates and empowers women within themselves as they begin their journey to healing.
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Guides Family & Friends To Understand And Support Victims
Tragically, family and friends of victims often enable abusers to keep betraying and abusing – simply because they don’t understand abuse and trauma.
When women arm family and friends with a copy of Trauma Mama, Husband Drama, victims are inviting them to join the fight against abuse, betrayal, and the pornography industry.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Pornography Users
At BTR we know what it feels like when clergy, family, and friends minimize, dismiss, and enable abuse. The secondary trauma can be overwhelming.
Clergy, family, and friends can and should support victims. Trauma Mama, Husband Drama is a resource for victims and those who want to be allies.
Victims need support to get to safety and ultimately heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma. That is why the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group meets daily in multiple time zones. BTRG offers victims a safe space to process trauma, share their stories, express difficult emotions, and connect with other victims who get it.
Join today and receive the compassion, validation, and support that you deserve.
You are not alone.
Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne.
Purchase Trauma Mama, Husband Drama and Leave a Review
Some of you know that I have written a book called Trauma Mama, Husband Drama. It is a picture book for adults. It’s available on Amazon. Please check it out. It was written to help sexual coercion and betrayal victims.
When you receive your copy of the book, it will be a verified purchase. If you go to your Amazon account and give it a five-star rating, that makes a huge difference, too. The more five-star ratings we can get, the better this book will do on Amazon, and the more educated people can get about this type of abuse in relation to pornography use.
Give Trauma Mama, Husband Drama To Clergy
When you order Trauma Mama Husband Drama, please order multiple copies. One for you, one for clergy, and perhaps one for your local library. Order enough copies so you can give it out to people. This book needs to be passed around neighborhoods and through congregations.
I’m also writing a non-fiction book, that’s approximately 300 pages, about how pornography use is abusive to a spouse. The 300-page—it could be 380, I’m not sure what the final page number is going to be—that book is very detailed. It’s long and it has a lot of examples from victims. Which is great.
If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it. It came about when I was hanging out with a few sheroes and we were joking around. I said, “Trauma Mama, feeling sad.” Everyone laughed and I thought, “That’s it. I’m going to write this book.”
Trauma Mama, Husband Drama is a Picture Book For Adults
The way that I found the illustrator was an absolute miracle. She is also an abuse survivor. She lives in Brazil. I won’t go into how I found her, but it was an absolute miracle. She’s an amazing artist and turned out to be the right one for the job.
I can’t even put into words what a miracle it was to find her because there were a lot of other artists that I got samples from, to see if their work would work. Just nothing was quite jiving. This particular woman, her name is Cristalwolf Lobazul, we really clicked. I’m so grateful for her hard work. It’s taken about a year and a half to create this picture book. We worked really hard on all the little details to make sure that it was really saying what we wanted it to say.
Helpful Infographics in Trauma Mama, Husband Drama
At the back of the book are a bunch of BTR infographics that really help people understand this type of abuse. We’ve got the Power and Control Wheel, we have the Abuse Cycle. We have all those things that can help you understand what is happening to you in a visual way.
This podcast is helpful to people, but there’s something about having this physical book, that’s visual, to help process it as well. It’s a different way of learning. It’s a different way of processing.
Support the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast
I’m going to keep today’s podcast really short because it’s simply a call to action. I am grateful for those of you who will go immediately to order this book. Thank you for your support. Thank you for those who support the podcast on a monthly basis by doing monthly support from our website.
All of you listeners make a huge difference. The podcast downloads have increased exponentially over the years. I’m honored that the podcast has so many listeners. I’m actually blown away and grateful. I’m grateful that you are part of this mission to educate women about pornography use as an abuse issue and sexual coercion as an abuse issue. So thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Until next week, stay safe out there.
You mention in this episode having a physical book but on Amazon it appears I can only pre-order a kindle version of your new book. Can you change it so we can pre-order a physical book?
Amazon doesn’t allow pre-orders for physical books. So right now, the pre-sale is just for the digital version. If you purchase now, it will show up in your device on June 1st. Otherwise, buy the physical book on June 1st (mark your calendar:)! Thanks for the question!
So glad you are putting this out there! There is an urgent need to enhance literacy about abuse and trauma. Thanks for sharing your talents with the world!
Please make this available in Canada!!!!!!
It should be available in Canada, it’s not?
Would love to see it translated to Spanish! glad to support such a good cause. Education on abuse is very important.
The translator I was working with fell through. Could you possibility volunteer to help translate it into Spanish? If so, email my assistant at kari @btr.org