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betrayal trauma

Facing Clergy Induced Trauma

Healing From Clergy Induced Trauma

Recommended 3 – 6 Individual Sessions 

Dealing with an abusive husband requires tremendous energy, the last thing a woman needs is additional trauma from ecclesiastical leaders. When a women seeks support from church leaders, the hope is to receive empathy, compassion and understanding. However, more often than not, this does not happen. The tools you can receive in these sessions will help you navigate what we at BTR call “Ecclesiastical Leadership Trauma” (a form of secondary betrayal trauma) with the following tools:

  • Tools to communicate the abuse, sexual addiction, and betrayal trauma to your church leader
  • What you have a right to expect from a church leader when you tell him about the lies, abuse, and infidelity
  • What to do when you don’t receive what you deserve from a church leader
  • What to do when you are a victim of gaslighting, blame-shifting, or emotional abuse from your church leader
  • Learning to set boundaries while also practicing principles of love, service, and forgiveness
  • Avoiding the trap of shame and guilt in the religious dynamic

In these sessions, you will find a safe place to share concerns, raise questions, receive validation, feedback and tools to anticipate a traumatic experience with your clergy, and how to heal from ecclesiastical trauma.


The BTR coaches helped me realize how important it is for me to let myself feel all the emotions associated with the grieving process, including RAGE. I have denied myself that emotion for too long, and during this group, I finally gave myself permission to feel angry about my divorce and process that anger in healthy ways.


BTR helped me to see a tunnel of light in my long journey toward healing after a heart-wrenching divorce. The grief tools she introduced are helping me to accept and process important emotions, including some I’ve needed to validate for a long time.


You’re an angel to do such needed work. Thank you for your time and efforts. They are appreciated more than words can express. Again, thank you!


BTR coaches bring compassion and love into a difficult environment, providing practical tips and tools that allow me to grow, heal and move forward.

Not Sure How to Get Started?

This video gives you the basics we recommend to get started with your betrayal trauma recovery.