Many betrayal victims are only told a sliver of the truth when they try to understand their betrayal trauma. They are told that their betrayal trauma is solely a result of their partner’s pornography use.
Pornography Use Is Abuse
What women aren’t told, is that a partner’s secret use of pornography, is abusive. Lying is emotionally abusive. Using the family’s money to fund a secret sexual life, is financial abuse. And the list goes on.
Many women are devastated and confused when their partner goes through a spell of “sobriety” (when he stops using pornography for a period of time) because she is told that she should feel better. And yet, the bad feeling in the home and her partner is still harmful.
Betrayal Trauma is a Symptom of Abuse, Not Just Addiction
Betrayal Trauma is serious: so serious that it has symptoms just as severe and strikingly similar to PTSD and Rape Trauma Syndrome. When women are only told half of the truth, that they feel so awful because their partner is using pornography, but not that pornography use is abusive, they are being abused. Not only by their partner, but by therapists, clergy, and other misguided “helpers” who have led them to believe that they ought to “feel better” once the pornography has stopped.
The simple truth is that abuse doesn’t stop because pornography stops.
You Suffer From Betrayal Trauma Because You Are An Abuse Victim
It is a difficult concept to accept when women have been fed the sugar-coated half-truths about sex addiction for decades, but it’s the truth: you suffer from betrayal trauma because you are an abuse victim.
You deserve safety, support, self-care, and knowledge as you navigate this journey to understanding what has been happening to you.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims
The free BTR podcast is a helpful resource for betrayal victims. Tune in and hear powerful stories from other women who understand what you’re going through.
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Support Group offers validation, community, and support to women all over the world. BTRG holds multiple, live sessions every singe day in every time zone. Now you can receive the support you need when you need it.
Remember, you are not alone.