Were you told that your trauma is solely a result of your partner’s secret pornography use? Yet you feel in your soul that your husband is emotionally abusive?
Here’s what no one else is saying.
Secret Pornography Use Is Abuse
What women aren’t told, is that a partner’s secret use of pornography, is abusive. Lying is emotionally abusive. Using the family’s money to fund a secret sexual life, is financial abuse. And the list goes on.
When their partner goes through a spell of “sobriety” (when he stops using pornography for a period of time) therapists, clergy, and others tell her she should feel better. And yet, the bad feeling in the home and her partner is still harmful.
Why?
Betrayal Trauma is a Symptom of Abuse
Betrayal Trauma is serious: so serious that it has symptoms just as severe and strikingly similar to PTSD and Rape Trauma Syndrome. When women are only told half of the truth: that they’re traumatized because their partner is using pornography, but not that pornography use is abuse.
The simple truth is that abuse doesn’t stop because pornography stops.
It is a difficult concept to accept when women have been fed the sugar-coated half-truths about sex addiction for decades, but it’s the truth: your husband is abusing you.
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