When you discover that your husband has betrayed you with secret pornography use and other compulsive sexual acting out behaviors, it’s important to seek support as soon as you’re ready.
Many women come to BTR after having tried several other support modalities; they’re tired, frustrated, financially depleted, and feel invalidated by the professionals that were supposed to help them.
I Need Support – But I Don’t Know Where To Go
We get it. In the aftermath of betrayal, even the smallest decisions can feel overwhelming. Your decision to seek support is courageous and vulnerable, and we honor that.
We’ve done the research for you. Below, you’ll find the basic differences between BTR.ORG Group Sessions and another betrayal trauma support resource to help you determine what is best for your unique situation.
BTR Group Sessions
- Addresses secret pornography use as an Abuse Issue, while understanding that addiction may be involved.
- Female-only, professionally facilitated, live, daily online groups, in multiple time zones.
- Focus on the client’s emotional safety rather than reconciliation.
- Include support for narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, emotional & psychological abuse, sexual coercion, and post-separation abuse.
Bloom For Women
- Addresses secret pornography use as an Addiction Issue.
- Both male and female-taught static courses and Zoom sessions. (Women’s meeting, led by a woman, on Mondays and Wednesdays).
- Offers courses geared toward reconciliation.
- Offers free betrayal trauma resources
Hear What Our Clients Have To Say…
Trust yourself as you begin your healing journey. You deserve support that’s specific to what you need in your situation.
Three BTR.ORG Group Session clients are sharing their personal experiences on The BTR.ORG Podcast. Tune in and read the full transcript below to learn more.
Full Transcript:
Anne (00:00):
Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne.
(02:40):
We have a very special episode for you today, some BTR Group Session clients wanted to stay after a session and share their thoughts on how our group sessions have helped them. Help them process betrayal trauma, work through difficult emotions, get answers that they hadn’t previously gotten anywhere else. Answers to questions like, how do I set a boundary around my husband’s abusive behaviors at a family picnic with all of my extended family there, or how do I co-parent with my ex-husband when he keeps gaslighting me and the kids? Stuff like that. That’s specific to each individual situation because we get it.
You need answers for your specific situation and it’s hard to find those answers in therapy or with clergy when they just don’t understand emotional and psychological abuse. Okay, so now you’re going to hear from three BTR group session clients.
“Betrayal Trauma Recovery Has Been Life-Changing For Me.”
Group Session Client (03:34):
I really appreciate how you validated everybody first by listening to them and then by encouraging them in their own insights and giving them permission to do and be whatever they needed to at that moment. I have not experienced that with counseling, though I’ve been through a lot. It’s been a trial, and so I recognize the uniqueness of it and it’s just amazing.
(04:07):
Betrayal Trauma Recovery has been life changing for me. I’ve been able to share my feelings. I’ve been able to share my story. And I’ve had not only the coaches help through guiding my own path because the coaches don’t tell me how to choose to live or choose to recover or how to grow with my husband, but it’s more of a guidance.
The fact that I’m able to hear other girls’ stories is amazing. I don’t feel alone. I feel like the knowledge of what other women have done and their husbands have gone through. And I feel like that has taught me to grow because it doesn’t have to be the same scenario. It’s just knowing what they’ve done at different chapters of my recovery has allowed me to make my decisions.
“I definitely recommend BTR to everyone.”
I look forward to it every time I’m on here. And I find it to be very affordable and actually my counselor pissed me off one day. He had said, well, women’s groups, they like to tell each other what to do and that leads to divorce, and I was just like, that’s not true. You guys definitely don’t lead us to make decisions that would cause anyone to choose divorce. That’s a huge thing for me because I’ve heard other places or counselors do that. I definitely recommend BTR to everyone.
“I’ve found that having this group has been the best thing that ever happened to me.”
BTR.ORG Group Session Client
Group Session Client (05:36):
My husband was in recovery and having all of these meetings each week and having all the help he needs and counseling, and I felt like I was being left out in the dark. I was at the end of my rope. I needed some counseling myself, so I started searching for something to help me. I’ve found that having this group has been the best thing that ever happened to me. It has taught me what self-care means. It’s taught me a lot of things about gaslighting and DARVO and things I’d never heard of before. They’ve helped me through a lot of really hard situations. The group has been so supportive.
Validation, Support, Feedback, Clarity
(06:33):
The women are amazing. Everyone has their own story to tell, but each person gets validation and support that they need and feedback from the coaches as well as each other. It’s been great to know that I’m not alone in this, that there’s other women have struggled the same as I have, and that I can be there to support them and they can be there to support me. This group, I lean on it a lot when I’m going through hard times and I don’t understand everything that’s happening with my addict. They help clarify situations for me and give me options how I can handle it.
“I’ve learned self-worth. I’ve learned what self-care is.”
They also give me a place to share and I feel like it’s safe and I’m not being judged, and I just want to let others know how wonderful the BTR group has been for me, and I would recommend it for anyone who go through betrayal trauma so they can learn and grow. I feel like I’ve learned and grown from the first time I started attending to this day. I’ve learned self-worth. I’ve learned what self-care is, things that I didn’t even understand when I first started this group, so I just want to thank all the coaches, every one of ’em. They’re all wonderful ladies,
Anne (07:50):
I’d like to thank these women for sharing today on this episode, and I want to remind you listening that we are here for you. Please check out our group session schedule on our website.
