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Staying In Marriage Post-Betrayal

by | Abuse Literacy

Staying in marriage after betrayal

At BTR, our number one goal is to help women find safety.

Safety isn’t just protection from physical harm: women deserve emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual safety to both survive and thrive in life.

Choosing To Stay With An Abuser

There are many reasons that women may decide to stay in a marriage with an abusive man, including: financial and health reasons, fear of harm that could come from a divorce, or hoping that he will eventually change.

Many women do leave abusive relationships to find safety, and usually that is the safest route for a woman to take to find healing. However, when a woman chooses to stay in a relationship with an abusive man, there are three main steps that she can take to ensure that she is as safe as possible.

Victims of Emotional Abuse And Betrayal Must Set and Maintain Effective Boundaries

Whether a victim stays or leaves an abuser, she will only find safety once she has set and maintained appropriate boundaries.

Boundaries are not statements, requests, or ultimatums. They are courageous actions that women take to separate themselves from abuse.

Seek Support From Other Women Who “Get It”

Abusers seek to isolate women from support networks. Too often, their covert (and overt) tactics work, and victims become isolated and feel completely powerless over making healthy connections with others.

Overcoming this faulty belief, imposed by abusers, is necessary for women to find safety.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Offers Resources For Connection

At BTR, we offer three empowering services to help women connect with other victims.

When you schedule a session with a BTR coach, you are immediately understood and validated by a helpful coach who gets in the trenches with you and helps you plan helpful steps for triumphing over trauma and finding safety.

The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group meets daily in every time zone and offers women the opportunity to connect with other victims from all over the world. Join today and receive the support, validation, and community that you deserve.

The free BTR podcast highlights experts on trauma and abuse as well as inspiring and empowering stories of women in the BTR community who courageously share their stories with Anne Blythe, podcast host and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery.

Choose Self-Care: Baby Steps Are Just Fine

Abusers indoctrinate their victims to believe that they are not worthy of self-care. Often, abusers will interject themselves into the center of their partner’s life, making it nearly impossible for the time and attention that self-care requires.

Women seeking safety and peace must find ways to take care of their own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.

The most powerful form of self-care is setting and maintaining safety boundaries.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Women Who Choose to Stay

Tragically, women who stay in abusive relationships often feel ashamed of their decision and may further isolate as a result. At BTR, we understand the complexities of choosing to leave a marriage: we also understand that some women can’t even explain why they are staying and just need support.

Join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group and find the validation and love that you deserve.

Remember, you are not alone.

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  1. Virginia

    I love hearing about couples that both choose recovery and are then able to heal their marriage!

  2. Anon

    Great podcast!

  3. Anonymous

    Thanks for sharing various outcomes after D-day.


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