How Do I Protect & Heal My Children From My Husband’s Abuse?
For most women reeling from the trauma of sexual betrayal, one concern tends to rise above the rest: “How can I protect and heal my children from the impact of what’s happening?” The good news is, you’re not alone in your question. The better news is, we’ll help you find answers!
Originally designed for women whose relationships DON’T survive the impact of addiction and abuse, “How Can I Protect & Heal My Children?” is also appropriate for women who are healing within their recovering relationships.
Here are some of the questions commonly asked by women in these sessions support:
- What if my kids are exposed to porn while they’re with my husband or ex-husband? How can I prevent this from happening in the first place?
- My children are misbehaving in ways they didn’t before discovering my husband’s addiction. Are those two things related? And if so, how do I deal with that?
- As a mother, I know what my kids need to heal from this family trauma. The problem is, my husband or ex-husband disagrees completely, which has resulted in even more conflict. How can I convince him, or what if I can’t?
- Are my requests on this topic reasonable, or am I overreacting? Are my expectations realistic? What boundaries are appropriate under these circumstances?
- Should my kids be in therapy? If so, how do I choose the right therapist?
- I can’t afford specialized help for my family. Is any family counseling better than none at all?
- My partner blames me for our separation and/or divorce—because I’m the one who finally said, “enough is enough.” Now, he’s telling the kids that I’m the reason our family isn’t together. How do I deal with that?
- Though my husband is no longer acting out sexually, his attitudes toward me are still very abusive. How can I protect my children from internalizing this example of marriage and family?
- I hate that my kids have been hurt by their father’s actions and my responses to it. How can help them heal from this family trauma?