We install security alarms in our homes. We have working smoke alarms, carbon monoxide alarms, and we teach our children how to get out of the home safely. We do everything we can to protect our home from “bad guys.” Unfortunately, all these things don’t always keep them out. If they are determined, the “bad guys” will find their way in.

The same should be true for the media that comes into our home. We should be doing everything we can to protect our homes from pornography. Sadly, no one really thinks about this, until it’s too late.  

Technologically Protecting Your Children From Pornography

Although there is no filter that is 100% guaranteed to keep the porn out, it isn’t useless to have one, or two. Having filters can be a huge measure to prevent your children from accidental exposure. Just like with a burglar alarm, a filter is one safety measure. There are additional steps we can take to prevent exposure and protect our families as much as possible.  

Anne, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery says:

Installing internet filters are an important step towards safety in the home, but no number of filters will stop an addict who chooses to seek it out. Filters, though a helpful tool, are not the final answer to solve this “problem."

As a parent or spouse, you have every right to insist that your home be pornography-free. Here are some steps you can take:

6 Ways To Protect Your Children From Pornography

  1. Limit access by turning on Google Safe Search.
  2. Limit access by filtering from the router level.
  3. Disable your child's ability to download new apps.
  4. Watch out for Instagram, Snapchat and other dangerous apps.
  5. Follow Protect Young Minds and Educate and Empower Kids.
  6. Set parental controls on TVs, gaming devices and other internet portals.

For added measure, you can install accountability software, like Covenant Eyes.

These are just some of the things that you can do to prevent accidental exposure. However, just like with your home safety plan, there are additional steps that need to be taken.

Mentally Protecting Your Children From Pornography

In our home safety plans, we teach our children what they should do in case of a fire, burglary, or other emergency. We teach them how to dial 9-1-1. We teach them our address and phone numbers. We even make sure they know our first names, not just Mommy and Daddy.

We do all this to prepare them for an emergency. We should do the same thing for pornography and internet safety. Luckily, there are a few organizations that have made this easy for us.

3 Organizations To Help You Educate Yourself And Your Children

  1. Educate and Empower Kids- This is an organization that helps parents teach their kids about digital citizenship, media literacy, and even sex and pornography.
  2. Protect Young Minds- This is an organization that helps parents teach their kids about pornography.
  3. White Ribbon Week- This is an organization that specializes in teaching kids at school about digital citizenship and online safety.

Several books have been written to help you teach your children about sex and pornography, and what to do when they see it. Those books can be found here, under the topic Protecting My Children.

You Can Protect Your Children From Pornography

Teaching your children what to do when they see pornography will go a long way for protecting them. Also, keeping an open dialogue with them will let them know that they can talk to you about anything, including when they see pornography. Read more about keeping an open dialogue here.

In today’s world, where most businesses operate online in one way, or another, we can’t, realistically, completely cut them off from the internet 100%. Doing everything we can to protect them and teaching them what to do, when they do see pornography, will help us feel safer.

Feeling safer doesn’t mean letting our guard down. It means trusting that we have done our best and that our children will make good choices.

Do your best, and that’s good enough.

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