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Have you found porn on your husband's phone or computer? Or on the family computer?

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Have you found evidence of your husband texting another woman or having an emotional or physical affair?

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Is your husband frequently irritable or defensive about regular everyday things?

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Does your husband alternate between Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

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Does your husband refuse to give you his phone password? Or alternatively, seem very proud of himself for giving you his passwords, like it's some type of sacrifice?

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He never asks you how you're doing. Do you feel like he doesn't really see you?

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Do you sometimes catch your husband in small or large lies? Sometimes lying for what seems like no reason at all?

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Does your husband refuse to take accountability for the harm and hurt he causes? Is he unable to see how his actions harm you while also claiming you're hurting him?

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Does your husband seem to have an inflated sense of his talents, knowledge or skills - also known as grandiosity - without anything to show for those supposed special qualities?

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Does your husband require constant praise and admiration, often claiming that he doesn't feel respected enough or cared for enough?

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Does he ever try to assert control on a situation by screaming in your face, punching walls or doors, or saying awful things about you that aren't true? Or alternatively, stonewalling you and refusing to engage in conversations or participate in family responsibilities?

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Did you ever find pornography on your ex-husband's phone or computer?

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Did you ever find evidence of him texting other women or having an emotional or physical affair?

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Does your ex-husband refuse to take accountability for his lies, porn use, infidelity and abuse that caused the divorce? Does he make the divorce your fault?

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Does your ex-husband alternate between Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?

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Does your ex-husband expect praise and gratitude for doing the law-mandated minimum? Like paying child support or filing his taxes?

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Does he claim he knows what’s best for the kids, even though his suggestions make the kids life harder and exacerbate problems for you and your children?

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Does he send you emails or texts blaming you for any variety of things?

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Does your ex-husband act like the victim, "You did this to me. You took all my money. You hurt me so much."

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Does your ex-husband seem to have an inflated sense of his talents, knowledge or skills - also known as grandiosity - without anything to show for his supposed qualities?

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No

Did he ever try to assert control on a situation by screaming in your face, punching walls or doors, or saying awful things about you that weren't true? Does he do that still?

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No

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