If you’ve discovered your husband uses pornography and you’re looking for pornography addiction recovery groups for him, here are 5 things you need to know.
Navigating the complexities of a relationship where pornography use is involved can be incredibly challenging. For women married to men who use pornography, the path to understanding and healing is not always straightforward. One of the options often considered is a pornography addiction recovery group. However, it’s crucial to be informed about what these groups entail and the potential impact they can have on your marriage.
The Reality of Pornography Addiction Recovery Groups
While these groups are marketed as a supportive environment for those struggling with pornography use, they may sometimes encourage harmful dynamics. Here’s what you need to know:
1. Focus on Self-Reflection in Pornography Addiction Recovery Groups
Pornography addiction recovery groups often encourage men to focus inwardly. While self-reflection can be beneficial, it’s not beneficial for an abusive man. Abusive men need to focus on what other people feel, and not to manipulate them.
2. Misplaced Blame on Wives
Some recovery groups may suggest that wives participate in a 12-step program, implying they contribute to the marital issues. This misguided approach can place undue blame on you, failing to acknowledge the emotional and psychological and sexual coercion you’re experiencing. To learn more about this, listen to the FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast.
3. Misrepresentation of Shared Issues In Pornography Addiction Recovery Groups
These groups might tell wives that they share the same “disease” as their husbands. This can further perpetuate feelings of guilt and responsibility for a situation that isn’t her fault.
4. Disease vs. Choice
There’s a narrative that men in these groups may hear—that their addiction is a disease. This perspective can obscure the reality that behaviors are choices, influenced by underlying misogynistic attitudes, rather than an unavoidable condition.
5. The Risk of Couple Therapy
Many recovery groups advocate for couple therapy. However, if you’re in a relationship with an abusive man, couple therapy is dangerous. A victim should never be forced to attend therapy with her abuser.
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This was very helpful to me. I have been on my recovery journey for a year after leaving my porn addicted husband of 19 years. When I first got out of the marriage, I was looking for support for partners of porn addicts and I couldn’t really find much of anything. To me it seemed like everything was focused on not upsetting the addict so he could stay pure, while dumping a hundred thousand cases of eggshells for me to walk on, on TOP of the eggshells I’ve been walking on for 19 years.
I got pretty angry about that. One day I told my therapist, I don’t care about the addict–there’s lots of resources for them to get help, but the resources for partner recovery seems to focus on what we can do to support the addict in their recovery. What about our trauma? What about what we have suffered through? This is a HUGE problem in society, very under-reported, and the Pornography Recovery Industrial Complex is the best we are offered? I’m so happy I found this podcast where partners are not re-victimized. Thank you!
Did you hear about the smooth talking YouTube famous therapist who was secretly divorced from his wife for a year while taking big money from couples to save their marriage? He’s currently engaged to his ‘friend’ who owns a Christian broadcasting network.
And… his cult-like followers still adore him.