Loving Yourself Fiercely: Healing Our Self Worth & Self Image
Interactive Webinar: Loving Yourself Fiercely: Healing Our Self Worth & Self Image
One 2-Hour Class
Led by Coach Sarah
Limited to 12 participants (minimum 6)
Loving Yourself Fiercely is an interactive webinar lovingly crafted to:
1) Help you see where childhood messages, our culture, and the betrayals we’ve faced have damaged our self-worth and self-image.
2) Find inspiration to see yourself in a new way.
3) Teach you tools to combat this on-going struggle.
“Perhaps, we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us, they know exactly how it should be done.” – Rudy Francisco.
In our culture, our self-worth is often derived from our self-image. This is the exact opposite of how we find freedom, confidence, and peace from the endless striving to be something or someone else.
Add to that the damage done by the unrealistic representations pornography puts out there, or the comparison to affair / acting out partners, and most women dealing with betrayal trauma have had their self-worth and self-image shattered.
This workshop aims to help you see yourself differently, and empower you to love yourself fiercely – connecting you to a place of truth that, with work, will not easily be taken away from you ever again.
In this workshop, we will:
- Take a look at the negative messages we’ve come to believe about ourselves from childhood, our culture, our marriage/relationship, and the betrayal we’ve endured.
- Identify the lies in these negative messages, and work to reframe them to reflect the truth about who we really are.
- Work through a few tools to help us connect with our self-love, and craft mantras that will help us.
- STAY connected to that self-love when the gremlins pop up and try to rob us of our peace and self-love.
Anne: Sarah, why is the topic of self-worth/self-image important to you?
Coach Sarah: I have met a lot of women as a coach in this area – brilliant, beautiful, caring, amazing women. And almost without fail, they do NOT see themselves this way. Because they are traumatized, they feel weak, broken… almost like “damaged goods”. I deeply desire to help women see themselves differently… as forces to be reckoned with; loving, giving, funny, intelligent… because once a woman really, truly connects with this – no one can take it away from her again! She KNOWS her worth, and she won’t settle for less! And I’m convinced that our self-image – the way we view ourselves, correlates directly with our self-worth.
Wives Of Pornography Users Have Lower Self-Worth / Self-Image
I think our culture has done a pretty “good” job of giving women inferiority complexes. There are so many messages/images of how a woman should look, act, walk; what kind of job she should have, what interests she should carry, etc. Where our women are impacted differently is, I think, the comparison isn’t as broad – it has become very specific and personal – because it’s not just “society at large” that is sending out these messages, our spouse has been fantasizing or actually been sexual with these images/people.
Society, at large, hasn’t made a commitment to “choose” us, but our spouse has… and yet, their betrayal makes it feel like they are not choosing us. Many struggle with connecting that to not being desirable enough, and this is a huge hit to how we value and see ourselves.
How Can We Learn To Love Ourselves After Betrayal?
There are a few things, and I share them in my workshop, but one that really stands out is a blog I read by Glennon Doyle. It was a paradigm shift for me… one that helped me see how beautiful this life is that I’m creating, and how our focus is so often on the wrong things. That’s all I want to give away on that one right now!
The First Step To Loving Yourself
About a year into my coaching in Austin, I did a retreat for my ladies. As I was putting it together, and thinking about each woman specifically, one thought kept playing over, and over and over: “She deserves to be pampered. She deserves to know what it feels like to be loved well.” Even if the “addict” is involved in a legitimate recovery, and is working hard, it’s a LONG road, and often, sobriety and personal recovery trumps the relational aspect of things, so the woman is still left feeling lonely, or not loved well. It’s so difficult to not internalize this. Women get “used to” it, and can often translate that to their worthiness. When I connected these dots… well, that’s when I started focusing on building my clients up, discover their worth, and connect to the fact that they are worthy of such love.
The Key To Self Worth Is Knowing Your Worth Isn't Based On Your Husband's Perceptions Of View
Without a doubt, the key to self-worth is being able to silence every negative voice (including your own); every “should or shouldn’t”, and give yourself permission to like, and love whatever you like and love about yourself. Doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks – what their opinions of you are, or what is likeable / lovely. It only matters what you think/like/love!
If you could say something to the women listening, regarding self-worth, what would that be?
“Your worthiness is NOT based on someone else’s ability or INABILITY to accept, appreciate, or value you. You are worthy of being cherished, and loved well. Start by loving yourself well!”
If you’ve had it with your husband’s pornography / sexual addiction and related behaviors, such as lies, infidelity, gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors, Betrayal Trauma Recovery is for you.
The consequences of your man's sexual addiction may cause you to experience fear, anxiety, insomnia, depression, despair, hopelessness, or other mental distress, financial difficulties, and abandonment. You are likely suffering from betrayal trauma and need help.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery professionals can help you establish emotional safety and peace in your home. You are not crazy, you don't have mental health problems. You are likely a victim of abuse and you need to heal.
If your husband has confessed his lies, compulsive sexual behaviors, and emotional abuse, promised to change, Betrayal Trauma Recovery APSATS Coaches will give you tools to know if the changes are real.
To read more, schedule a support call, or join a support group visit btr.org
Read More . . .
- The Parable Of The Unjust Judge
- Betrayal Trauma Symptoms
- An Exercise To Quiet Your Self Defeating Self Talk