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“My Husband Betrayed Me With A Man”

by | Abuse Literacy

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A member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community shares her horror and depth of grief when she faced the reality that her husband had betrayed her with a man. 

She chose to see the truth, find support, and take care of herself. This was the beginning of her healing journey.

What happened to her could happen to anyone. Her whole world had changed in an instant.

Betrayal Hurts… “My Husband Betrayed Me With a Man”

Reality suddenly shifted into something she had never imagined.

The betrayal was painful, but an added dimension of pain was that her husband had betrayed her with a man.

“In one morning, the whole paradigm of my world shifted.” That was the day I woke up. When I asked myself the question, ‘Is my husband gay?’” -Shero

He told her that he had been acting out with other men. 

She was confused and conflicted.

Numbness, Pain, Doubt: When Your Husband Betrays You With a Man

She didn’t know how to react or how to respond.

Then the questions came.

Had he ever been attracted to her?

Had their entire relationship been a lie?

Why hadn’t she known?

When did this happen?

Had he always been like this?

Why did he even marry her?

She didn’t have the answers and wasn’t sure she wanted them.

The Pain Can Be More Overwhelming When He Says He Betrayed You With a Man

That’s when she shut down.

That’s when she stopped feeling.

If she stopped feeling, it wouldn’t hurt so much.

If she stopped having emotions, she wouldn’t have to feel the pain.

She spent a long time not feeling, not having emotions.

Then, that weekend, that day, she decided to begin feeling again. She decided to begin healing.

You Can Feel Joy Even After Betrayal

She couldn’t get better if she didn’t feel.

She couldn’t get better if she didn’t let the emotions come.

She couldn’t get better if she didn’t allow the pain to take over for even a short time.

She was tired of not feeling, of not healing. She wanted to get better. 

She wanted to feel joy again. She wanted to feel peace, happiness and calm.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Here For You

She wanted to heal, so she started her journey.

She could feel peace and happiness and joy again.

This woman, as well as many others throughout the world, experience immense trauma. Whether your husband has betrayed you with a screen, women, or men, Betrayal Trauma Recovery is here to help.

BTR provides a safe place to talk about the most painful issues surrounding the betrayal and abuse in your relationship. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is available for you. This support group gives you a safe place to process your trauma, share your story, and ask sensitive questions. Don’t wait to heal: a loving group of women is ready to support you now.

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