Many victims of betrayal never get the closure they deserve. They never get an apology or the whole truth about what happened or why. They want to know: can I heal without closure?

Healing without closure IS possible, even if you don’t know everything you have the resources within you to heal.

If you don’t know, then you know everything you need to know.

Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG

1. Heal Without Closure By Allowing Yourself To Feel Your Emotions

The sad reality is that men who use pornography, have affairs, or are unfaithful in other ways generally aren’t willing to tell the truth or make restitution. They’re more interested in protecting themselves and blaming their victims for their actions.

Naturally, women will experience grief, anger, frustration, sorrow, and rage and hope for justice.

The first step in healing from betrayal is acknowledging and allowing yourself to feel your emotions. After being betrayed, it’s natural to feel anger, sadness, and even disbelief. Instead of suppressing these feelings or trying to numb them, give yourself permission to fully experience them.

This process may be painful, but it’s necessary for healing. By allowing yourself to feel your emotions, you’re acknowledging the hurt that was caused and giving yourself the space and time needed to heal.

2. Self-Care Can Help You Heal Without Closure

When going through a difficult time like betrayal, it’s important to prioritize self-care. This can mean different things for different people – it could be taking time for yourself, engaging in activities that bring you joy, or seeking support or education. Some women take a time out to become more educated about how to move forward, like enrolling in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop.

Self-care is essential for healing as it allows you to focus on your own well-being and needs. It can also help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety that may arise from the betrayal.

Abusers notoriously only confess bits and pieces of the truth, leaving victims in a gaslighting you on purpose to avoid the truth coming out.

Women can proactively work toward their own health and safety by getting tested for STDs, getting support from a betrayal trauma recovery coach, and focusing on what would help them feel better.

3. Seeking The Right Support

The lack of closure and validation an apology could offer, can be frustrating, heartbreaking, and maddening. However, as victims seek safe support, they can begin to heal without closure.

A “safe” support person is someone who is abuse and trauma-informed.

When women take all of the anger, pain, loss, grief, and rage, and express it in healthy ways with people who truly love and care for them, it can be tremendously healing.

Our BTR.ORG Group Sessions are where you can find the support that you need as you navigate this devastating path.

If you are struggling to heal from betrayal without closure, BTR Coaches provide a safe and non-judgmental space for you to process your emotions and work through the impacts of the betrayal.

Don’t give up hope – even when faced with betrayal without closure, there’s still a path to healing.