Can I Heal From Betrayal Trauma?

by | Abuse Literacy

I feel betrayed by God

I love when women who have been through betrayal trauma and have been abused get together and feel the strength and the beauty that all of us have. For some reason, it just helps to see other women who are smart and beautiful and capable who have been through similar things and think, “Okay, this isn’t me. This is not my fault, and this is something that I can recover from.”

Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Betrayal Trauma Victims Need Connection

Abuse, by its very nature, isolates women from supportive people. Often, abusers will use covert methods to condition women to believe that they are not important enough to spend time creating connections with other women. Abusers will actively discourage women from connecting with other victims


Because connection, especially with other women who “get it” is empowering. And abusers are terrified of their partners becoming empowered.

Victims of Betrayal Trauma and Emotional Abuse Deserve “Safe People” 

A safe person doesn’t only mean someone who won’t physically harm you.

A safe person is someone who is trauma and abuse-informed. When an individual understands trauma and abuse, they will never blame you, minimize the abuse, or try to “fix it”. Safe people listen, empathize, and empower victims of abuse. 

Even before you start thinking, “Okay, how am I going to recover from this?” just being around other women who you can be honest with, and they react appropriately, is powerful and validating. They give you a hug, they tell you they’re sorry, they’re not like, “Oh, really? What did you do?” “Oh, well, maybe if you lost a few pounds,” you know, some crazy thing that we’ve all heard from someone who wasn’t safe. We don’t say stuff like that, because we know what it’s like.

Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

How Can I Find a Safe Person?

Some women feel daunted by the idea of finding safe people to validate and support them on their healing journey. It may feel completely overwhelming to imagine trying to forge a friendship or telling the whole truth about the abuse and betrayal.

At BTR, we understand what it feels like to be isolated from other women and simultaneously crave connection and fear connection.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Betrayal and Emotional Abuse 

That is why the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group exists. To provide women with immediate care and support from other women who “get it” right away. Join today and receive the support, validation, and empowerment that you deserve. 

Remember, you are not alone. 

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