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Protect Yourself From Gaslighting

by | Boundaries

Emotional abuse victims experience confusion, turmoil, and pain when abusers gaslight.

What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is psychologically abusive tool used to distort another person’s reality. 

Gaslighting is generally covert in nature. It is usually easier to discern in the aftermath of an episode. Sometimes, gaslighting can be very overt and aggressive. An example of this would be if a light was off and an abusive male insisted that the light was on. The victim would know that the light was off, and yet the aggressive insistence of the abuser that the light was off would be unsettling and even scary to her. Most of the time, gaslighting is more subtle. Join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group to process psychological and emotional abuse.

Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Can Protect Themselves From Gaslighting

Narcissistic abusers often bait victims to stay in a conversation at all costs. Even when it is obviously harmful to the victim.

Victims must learn to set and maintain boundaries that will protect them from psychologically abusive behaviors. Boundaries are not requests, statements, or ultimatums. Boundaries are actions that courageous women take to protect themselves and their children from abuse. 

Some examples of boundaries that would protect a woman from her partner’s gaslighting would be:

  • I get to decide what my reality is. When my partner tells me what I am thinking, I leave the room. 
  • I only live with people who respect me. Because my partner has chosen to gaslight me continuously over the years, I am moving out, regardless of his promises to change.
  • When I wonder if I am crazy, or feel confused, I will reach out to my support people. 

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

At BTR, we understand the devastation and chaos that gaslighting can cause in a woman’s life.

The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Support Group offers community, validation, and support to women all over the world. Join today.

And remember, you are not alone.

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  1. Gaelyn

    Coach Sarah, you have an amazing gift for articulating a topic that otherwise feels overwhelming and complicated! Thank you for dedicating yourself to this subject, and for using your voice on behalf of us as "gaslightees!"

  2. annonymous

    Thank you for sharing about this <3

  3. Madie

    I notice my husband has been cheating on me. I’m so glad i found you!!


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