Betrayal Trauma Is Real – And Serious

Women who have been or are being emotionally abused and betrayed by their partners experience betrayal trauma. The symptoms of betrayal trauma can be severe and debilitating.

Dr. Adam Moore, owner and clinical director at Utah Valley Counseling states:

“..What we’re seeing in our office is women who are experiencing legitimate trauma. So the flashbacks, the nightmares, the panic attacks, all those types of things.

Only in the last few years is this becoming more obvious in the public eye, and we still have a lot of work to do. Some people still don’t really believe this is real, they think women are overreacting, or they are just being dramatic. But for women who are experiencing it, it is extremely real; it is as real as getting in a car accident and breaking all your limbs.

While some women experience severe physical symptoms like autoimmune diseases, migraines, and fatigue, others may experience debilitating mental and emotional symptoms.

For me the trauma affected me with anxiety, trying to control the situation, depression, obsession. –Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Victims of Emotional Abuse Deserve a Voice

Tragically, some women who seek help are further abused by family, friends, clergy, and therapists. When they are told that the emotional abuse is not real or serious, they are being re-traumatized.

 “That was the most traumatizing part–going for help, screaming and yelling saying ‘I need help!’ and having people just look at me and say, ‘Well, stop asking him questions. Stop making such a ruckus.’ It was so awful.” –Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Women who courageously seek support deserve to be heard and supported, not dismissed. Speak with a professional now.

“So, not only is there all of the pain that’s happening with traumatic things recurring in the relationship, but I think an additional issue is then when they reach out to other people they are being dismissed and they’re being told that they are making a big deal out of nothing.

That really compounds the traumatic experience. You know, I don’t know which one is more traumatic, the experience of being betrayed, being lied to, being manipulated in your own marriage, or then reaching out for help and having people tell you that you’re crazy.” –– Dr. Adam Moore owner and clinical director at Utah Valley Counseling

Women in Betrayal Trauma May Experience Significant Grief

For most women something like this actually feels worse than a death because it is not a concrete loss because the person is still there and oftentimes there is this hope that maybe he’ll change, maybe he’ll figure things out, maybe he will ‘come back from the dead,’ if you will.– Dr. Adam Moore owner and clinical director at Utah Valley Counseling

When women experience emotional abuse and/or physical, sexual, or other kinds of relational abuse at the hands of a partner, they may feel immense grief. Often, they go through these incredibly difficult emotions alone.

With me, I felt like my husband had died – he was gone. He had abused me and betrayed me and then he was gone, and didn’t do anything to try and change or resolve the situation – which felt like another betrayal. And I felt so alone. My three children and I were abandoned. –Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Emotional Abuse

Women in betrayal trauma often struggle to find others who can relate in a genuine way to what they are going through. The Betrayal Trauma Support Group meets daily to bring love, compassion, and support to women who are all on different levels of their journeys to healing.

BTR coaches are trained in helping women set boundaries, find safety, and feel true support.

Remember, you are not alone.

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