RC, APSATS CPClaura@btr.org
She has dedicated her professional goals toward helping couples navigate challenging issues such as boundaries and strategies to understand and support healthy intimacy, to rebuild trust, and to manage therapeutic separation when necessary. Laura was trained by APSATS (CPC), the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (CPC), The American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (PRC) and Stephen Ministries, equipping her to provide Christ-centered coaching to those who request it.
After discovering my husband’s sex addiction, I was feeling lost and helpless. I went to see a typical counselor, but quickly realized she had no experience dealing with sex addiction and had immediately formed the opinion that I should leave my husband. I knew that I needed to talk to someone with a less biased opinion as well as experience dealing specifically with these issues. Laura provided me with exactly that. In the beginning, I struggled with a lot of anxiety and fear over whether or not I could ever trust my husband again. I also suffered daily from intrusive thoughts and images regarding his acting out behaviors. Laura helped me to understand that I still had control over my life. I realized, with her help, that I could choose how to handle my situation. Knowing this gave me strength and the confidence to make decisions for myself. Laura is extremely patient and kind and asks just the right questions to help you come to your own decisions. She is easy to relate to and when I’m with her I feel like I’m talking to an old friend.
J, Virginia, USA
When I first started working with Laura, I was (and still am) dealing with my husband’s sex addiction. I desperately needed help in setting some boundaries with him. I had pretty much been doing it all wrong for 10 long, painful years. I had lost my voice. I felt very alone and like no one really understood what I was dealing with . . . because they didn’t. My husband had made others think I was the unsafe one, so I had pulled away from most of my friends. I struggled with even wondering if a boundary was appropriate or not (and it most definitely was), and then following through. Laura validated my experience and my pain. She helped me realize I AM NOT CRAZY, thank you very much!! She helped me realize that setting a boundary with my husband was not only appropriate, but needed. As I began to get my voice back, gain confidence, and set boundaries with my husband, I knew that at least I had one person supporting me. After spending over $10,000 on counseling (from people who did NOT understand sex addiction and betrayal trauma), Laura was like a breath of fresh air. She was truly a God send!!
M, Missouri, USA
I was dealing with an unstable marriage relationship due to sexual betrayal. It was unclear at the time exactly what I should call it. I felt bad for “snooping,” for being suspicious, yet he gave me reason to not believe him. I felt scared, angry, generally unsafe, and competitive (with who I didn’t know). The things I struggled with most were feelings of guilt for spying, confusion as to how to proceed, adjusting to an unknown reality in my marriage. One of the most valuable things I have learned from working with Laura is there is a way to grow and have a happy present and future, even if it is tinged with sadness, anger, fear, rage, etc. She helped me accept who I am now, warts, spying and all, and guided me into becoming more of who I want to be. She gave me encouragement to be braver than I thought I was. She understands what it’s like to be in the tangled forest of betrayal, and helps you find a treasure in that maze.
S, Virginia, USA