Victims of betrayal and emotional abuse deserve a safe place to heal.
Anne Blythe, founder of BTR knew that when she created the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group. She also knew that many victims would be so overwhelmed by trauma that traveling outside of their home for an appointment with a support group or therapist would feel impossible. She knew that women needed care they could afford
With an incredible team of trauma and abuse-informed BTR coaches behind her, Anne knew that she could help.
Have you considered joining Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group? Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast to learn more about why you should join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group today.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Safe
One of the things that’s important is having safe people and if you have people around you that don’t necessarily understand your experience you don’t always feel safe. BTR creates that safe environment. The women in these groups are safe. You never have to feel judged.Member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community
Finding a safe network of support people is an essential step in finding safety and healing from betrayal and abuse.
Tragically, many women find that their family, friends, clergy, and even therapists, are not safe. They blame, shame, and dismiss the victim while enabling the abuser. Often, they don’t even realize they are doing this.
The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group meetings are led by trauma-informed coaches who understand hidden abuse and the harmful nature of pornography. BTRG is a safe place.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Validating
“I am not crazy.”
Those five words are a gift that many women give themselves after spending time in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group.
So many victims spend years believing that they are:
- Imagining things
- The abusive one in the relationship
When women engage in a support network that validates their feelings, they are better able to discern reality and truly begin the healing process.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Healing
Many women have found their voices through attending Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group.
I credit so much of my healing and the strength that I’ve gained to the coaches and being with the other women in the group. BTR group has helped me to become a better, healthier, stronger, more confident, and empowered person.Member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community
When victims of betrayal and abuse are validated, empowered to find safety, and educated about abuse and trauma, they are laying a foundation of peace and health in their lives that will pave the way for healing.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Guided By Trauma-Informed Professionals
Each Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is professionally-facilitated by a certified betrayal trauma coach.
These coaches are not only experts in hidden abuse, betrayal, and trauma, but they are also victims. They can understand in a way that no other professional can.
BTR is not just a support group, it’s coaching with amazing trained coaches who have walked this path and give appropriate advice, encouragement, answer questions and guide you along the path of healing. BTR gave me the terminology to put to how I was feeling. Knowing the right words to describe my feelings helped calm my soul and helped me to not feel so crazy.Member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community
During the BTRG meetings, BTR coaches:
- Actively listen
- Share feedback when asked for it
- Validate feelings
- Offer empowerment through education about trauma and abuse
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Is Convenient And Affordable
At BTR we understand how devastating betrayal can be in every way, including financially.
That is why the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is affordable – so that every woman, no matter her financial situation, can receive the support she deserves.
With daily meetings in multiple time zones, women can easily join a session when it’s convenient for them.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Ready To Support You
Compassion, understanding, guidance, answers, and validation. You can expect these and more as you courageously seek support by joining the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group.
At BTR, we believe that every victim of abuse and betrayal deserves healing. Join today.
Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne.
Join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group
Remember, Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group has multiple sessions in every single time zone. When you join you usually can get into a session within a few hours.
For today’s podcast, we have asked members of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group to talk about their experience.
When you join, you can go to any of the coach’s sessions. You can go to all of them so you can get to know all of the coaches. I just asked Coach Laura to see if any of the members of her groups would like to share and she had a few that said yes. So they are going to share their thoughts.
Betrayal Trauma Is Devastating-Support Groups Can Help
Some of them wrote their responses just because they wanted some time to think about it. Some of them were just spontaneous in what they said. At the very end, Coach Laura is going to share some of her thoughts and feelings about coaching Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group.
Testimony: We’ve tried many different counselors, including CSATs, and been doing that for quite some time. But being on BTR for just a few weeks has made all the difference. I can really see the behaviors now, much more clearly the dysfunction. The validation that the coaches and other women have given me every day has been everything to me. Life-changing.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Offers Women Clear Information About Abuse
Testimony: I’m very grateful for Betrayal Trauma Recovery. I was able to get clear thinking about what I was witnessing and what was going on. Listening to the podcasts has been so helpful. Also having the coaches talk not only with us individually but listening to the other ladies helped me to classify and figure out strategies for handling the grooming, gaslighting, and the other things that I didn’t have words for until I got into BTR. I think the most significant thing was to be able to get outside of myself and be able to apply it in different situations.
One was with my husband’s counselor. Very traditionally, he would like to do marriage counseling. I learned, from BTR, that there has to be a certain level of health with the abuser before that would be successful.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Empowers Victims of Betrayal & Abuse
I was able to state that with my husband’s counselor and to say to him that sex before marriage, the sex in marriage, the pornography, all of those things are not marriage problems. They cause marriage problems, but they are his personal problems. Until he addresses those, marriage counseling will not be successful, and I don’t want to participate.
It was BTR Group that empowered me to understand, one, that I have a voice, and, two, that was a very logical way to handle the situation. The counselor was very taken aback. But he saw what I was saying and took another course with my husband, which actually helped my husband more.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Offers Victims a Safe Space To Find Healing
Testimony: BTR is not just a support group. It’s coaching with trained and amazing coaches who have also walked this path and give appropriate advice, encouragement, and help answer questions and guide you along the path of recovery. BTR gave me the words and the terminology to put to how I was feeling.
Victims Find Their Voices in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group
Knowing the right words to describe my feelings helped calm my soul and helped me to not feel so crazy. There have been several moments over time that I have been in the group when I was full of panic, anxiety, and fear because of the situations at home with my husband. I was able to get on a group call within a couple of hours to talk through it. I could get the comfort and validation that I needed, and advice, if it was needed.
BTR Group has been a lifesaver for me on many occasions. It’s a safe place where I can cry. I can let it out and share my fears no matter how silly they may seem to others. The coaches and other women in the group understand and get it. It’s a judgment-free zone where I can be me. They fully accept me for who I am. For all my faults, failures, and my accomplishments.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Helps Victims Understand & Implement Safety Boundaries
BTR helped me set and hold appropriate boundaries for my safety. This helps me feel confident and empowered. The coaches and other women in the group give me validation to know that I am not crazy. That others have been through the same thing. I love being in the group and hearing other women’s stories and questions. It helps me to know that I am not alone and that others have been through what I have been through.
Often they have the same questions I have. Sometimes questions that I had that I didn’t know that I had or how to ask. We call it second-hand coaching. So many times the advice given to other women was just what I needed to hear.
Support Groups Can Help A Victim Heal
I’ve been doing the coaching calls since the beginning. It’s great to build that relationship with the coaches and to have them tell me how much improvement and growth they have seen in me. I have also made some good friends in the group and I keep in touch with outside of the group. I have been greatly blessed with their continued friendship.
BTR Group is the friend I never had and needed so desperately. I felt so alone for so many years. I am truly grateful to have found BTR when I needed them most and to have the coaches with me through this journey of healing.
Finding a Community of Victims Who Understand Can Help Women Heal
I can honestly say I don’t know where I’d be without the BTR group. I credit so much of my healing and the strength that I’ve gained to the coaches and being with the other women in the group. BTR group has helped me to become a better, healthier, stronger, more confident, and empowered person.
Coach Laura: I know it’s hard to read through stuff like that without feeling it. I appreciate it and I know Anne appreciates it.
Anonymous: When your eyes are filled with tears it’s hard to see what you’re reading.
Coach Laura: Right. I get it.
Help Women Find BTR: No One Should Suffer Alone
Testimony: I was introduced to BTR probably nine months ago by a friend because I was going through a divorce. During a really ugly part of the divorce, we were actually left homeless for about 9 months and a family in our church took my 16-year-old daughter and I into their home.
She was going through some issues also and she said, “You’ve got to get on to this group.” I said okay. I was already on another support group and I got on to BTR and was just listening. I was really surprised at the connection with the pornography.
The BTR Podcast Can Educate Victims about Pornography As Abuse
I had actually been going to counseling for years with my marital problems and nobody had ever made that connection before with the pornography. When I brought it up to my counselor at Kaiser, my therapist said, “Oh, that’s interesting. I’ve never made that connection before.”
I just kept listening to podcasts and it was so intriguing. I thought, “You know, I hadn’t even thought about the connection of pornography with coercive control.”
BTR Uses The Trauma Model To Help Victims Find Safety
I ended up messaging one of the coaches at BTR and asked them, “What are the chances of these particular things going on within our marriage, (and I listed a few things,) and it not being pornography-related?” The coach messaged me back and said, “I guess it’s possible. But it is highly unlikely that pornography is not involved with this situation.”
I was dealing with a lot of very covert abuse. Nice to everyone else, but very mean and horrible to me and my younger daughter. There was a lot of abuse in different arenas when you go on the wheel. She said that she thought it would be highly unlikely. That hit me really hard. It took me a couple of days to digest that. Because I hadn’t even considered pornography being a part of the mix.
I think it gave me more validation because even though I really can’t confront him about that, because we’re on zero communication, it gave me a lot of validation to know that I’m not crazy. No matter how this looks to everyone else, I am suffering horribly. And I’m not crazy.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Can Be Empowering
I appreciate all the podcasts and the support. I’m now involved with the coaching sessions, the groups. It’s been invaluable to me to connect. I just thank you for it.
Testimony: BTR was recommended to me by my counselor. She recommended that I get into the group. She said that it was important that I get into the group while still seeing her. So I joined BTR I believe in April of 2017. So I’ve been a member now for three years. I’ve also had individual appointments with several different coaches.
BTR Helps Victims Hold To Their Values While Choosing Safety
The great thing about BTR groups and how they’ve helped me, is they have all different coaches who bring with them all different areas of expertise. For example, Coach Laura brings with her the values expertise and that has been very helpful for me to identify what I value because then that helps me to determine certain boundaries that I need to put into place to keep at the forefront of what I value. I understand that values can change, so she’s really helped me with that, and she’s also helped me with relationship recovery agreements and many, many other things.
I’m going to go back to the BTR groups again. Over the years since I’ve gotten on and again several sessions each day, but I’ve gotten on and sometimes if it’s a big group we’ve had as much as 8-10 minutes, which is more than sufficient, but I’ve also gotten on where we’ve had 20-30 minutes.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Offers “Spot-Coachigng”
Whether it’s 10 minutes, 20, or 30 minutes, in those sessions you can just do whatever you’re comfortable with, but I have found that it’s so valuable with that what we call spot-coaching. I say, “Hey, I need spot-coaching.” I’m getting spot coaching that one membership fee covers all of that.
I have found that when I get on these groups, I’m getting all of this coaching and support from all these different areas of expertise in addition to the coaches and getting on with other women and sharing my experiences. For me, it has helped me to know that I’m not alone because it is so easy to feel so alone in all of this.
Women Can Form Strong Friendships In the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group
One of the things that’s important is having safe people and if you have people around you that don’t necessarily understand your experience you don’t always feel safe. BTR creates that safe environment.
The women in these groups are safe. You never have to feel judged. You’re not going to have people telling you how you should think or what you should do. It’s completely safe. While each women’s experience is unique, we all share commonalities, and having that support got me through without a doubt the most traumatic relational experience in my life.
Frankly, if I didn’t have BTR, I don’t know, first of all, if I would have healed. I don’t know what I would have done without BTR. I’ve been with Coach Joi. I’ve been on with Coach Joanne.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Offers Connection
BTR also offers some special groups. Another coach had a group for Rescued, that I was a part of. For me, being a woman of the Christian faith, when I asked for it because you do not have to be of a particular faith or you may be of another faith, anyone can come to BTR, Coach Laura has been such a blessing because I would be in certain moments, struggling and I would ask her—I would request it, and God worked through her and she said just the right thing at the right time when I was feeling broken. She would tell me scripture and I would go print off that scripture and keep it above my desk.
I am especially grateful to have Coach Laura to provide that spiritual perspective. You really mean a lot to me Coach Laura. I just so appreciate you.
“BTR Saved My Life”
Testimony: I truly believe that BTR saved my life. I’ve made lifetime friends; the only ones that understand my feelings, that have gone through the same things. Each coach has their own special traits and seeing the different views on the same subject or the same things in different ways or different suggestions really helps make you feel safe. I do appreciate you, Laura. You have changed my life. It was awful.
Coach Laura: Aw, thank you. Well, I’m very glad that I could. There have been times where I’ve wondered why, as you all have, that we’ve had to go through this. But I tell myself that if it’s to help one other person it’s worth it. I mean I might ask God one day why this particular thing to help one other person. But I get it. Somebody has to help us through it.
BTR Coaches Offer Loving Empathy To Victims of Abuse & Betrayal
It was hard for me. I didn’t have anybody, so I appreciate you guys. It builds me up to hear that, because sometimes I have my days where I wonder, “Am I doing enough? Am I ever hurting?” Heaven knows, when I first started coaching, I made some mistakes. I probably hurt a couple of people, but I thought I had to learn, and I just prayed that God healed them.
Anonymous: I know the times you’ve sent me a private email afterward, and I believe Joi has too. Joi called me one time, and that was wonderful.
Coach Laura: Yeah. Don’t we wish our husbands would do that?
Anonymous: Well, we wouldn’t be here if they did that.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is a Sisterhood
Coach Laura: That’s true. And I’d be out of a job. I’m just kidding. I love the ladies at BTR. I’m grateful for the strong women I work with every day who strive to transform their very personal pain into something beautiful. Something that brings healing not only for themselves but for their families, their children, and for me. It truly is a sisterhood. One that, as many BTR women would say, no one ever wanted to be a part of.
I am eternally grateful for each and every one of them. They tell me every day the difference BTR has made in their lives. They have made a difference in mine as well.
If there is any silver lining that comes with betrayal trauma, it’s the relationships that grow among those who understand and walk this road together. Thank you, every one of you, for blessing me as I walk my own road to healing after betrayal.
Anne: I’d like to thank Coach Laura and the members of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group for sharing their thoughts today.
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Until next week, stay safe out there.