Do you feel crazy? Do family and friends minimize the damage your partner has caused you by his porn use? Have you tried speaking to clergy only to be blamed for the chaos in your marriage?

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama is a picture book for adults, written by Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This book was created to validate women, educate clergy and family members, and empower all to hold abusers accountable for their behaviors. Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast for more.

Cover of Trauma Mama Husband Drama. Written by Anne Blythe, M. Ed. Illustrated by Cristalwolf Lobazul.
Trauma Mama Husband Drama written by Anne Blythe and Illustrated by Cristalwolf Lobazul. Scheduled for release on June 1, 2020. Available for pre-order on Amazon.

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Will Help You Explain The Betrayal To Clergy

Too many victims of betrayal are dismissed, blamed, and ultimately re-traumatized by their religious leaders when they reach out for help because of their partner’s porn use.

Anne Blythe, founder of BTR, created Trauma Mama, Husband Drama, in part to support women as they meet with clergy.

If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it.

Anne Blythe, author of Trauma Mama, Husband Drama

Women can bring this book with them when they meet with clergy or if they have already been traumatized, give it to their religious leaders in hopes that future victims will be supported, and not re-victimized.

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Validates Victims Within Themselves

Ever wonder if you are overreacting, expecting too much, imagining things, or just plain crazy?

Abusive men (including porn users) condition women to blame and berate themselves. When abusers gaslight their partners, women have difficulty detecting reality and often believe that it’s their own intelligence, mental health, or emotional stability that is causing reality to feel so disorienting.

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama helps delineate the truth about the chaos, abusiveness, and fear that women experience when their partners use pornography. This book can help women to feel validated and empowered within themselves as they begin their journey to healing.

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama Guides Family & Friends To Understand And Support Victims

Tragically, family and friends of victims often enable abusers to keep betraying and abusing – simply because they don’t understand abuse and trauma.

By arming family and friends with a copy of Trauma Mama, Husband Drama, victims are inviting them to join the fight against abuse, betrayal, and the pornography industry.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Pornography Users

At BTR we know what it feels like to be dismissed, criticized and traumatized by clergy, family, and friends after finally telling the truth about the chaos and agony that you have been living in.

Victims need support to get to safety and ultimately heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma. That is why the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group meets daily in multiple time zones: to offer victims a safe space to process trauma, share their stories, express difficult emotions, and connect with other victims who get it.

Join today and receive the compassion, validation, and support that you deserve.

Full Transcript:

Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne.

Purchase Trauma Mama, Husband Drama and Leave a Review

Some of you know that I have written a book called Trauma Mama, Husband Drama. It is a picture book for adults and it’s available on Amazon. Please check it out: it was written to help victims of betrayal and sexual coercion.

When you receive your copy of the book, it will be a verified purchase and if you go to your Amazon account and give it a five-star rating, that makes a huge difference, too. The more five-star ratings we can get, the better this book will do on Amazon, and the more educated people can get about this type of abuse in relation to pornography use.

Give Trauma Mama, Husband Drama To Clergy

When you order Trauma Mama Husband Drama, please order multiple copies. One for you, one for clergy, and perhaps one for your local library. Order enough copies so you can give it out to people. This book needs to be passed around neighborhoods and through congregations.

I’m also writing a non-fiction book, that’s approximately 300 pages, about how pornography use is abusive to a spouse. The 300-page—it could be 380, I’m not sure what the final page number is going to be—that book is very detailed, and its long and it has a lot of examples from victims, which is great.

If you give the picture book or a 280 to 300-page book to clergy, the likelihood of them reading the picture book is a lot higher. That is the reason that I created it. It came about when I was hanging out with a few sheroes and we were joking around. I said, “Trauma Mama, feeling sad.” Everyone laughed and I thought, “That’s it, I’m going to write this book.”

Trauma Mama, Husband Drama is a Picture Book For Adults

The way that I found the illustrator was an absolute miracle. She is also an abuse survivor. She lives in Brazil. I won’t go into how I found her, but it was an absolute miracle. She’s an amazing artist and turned out to be the right one for the job.

I can’t even put into words what a miracle it was to find her because there were a lot of other artists that I got samples from, to see if their work would work. Just nothing was quite jiving, and this particular woman, her name is Cristalwolf Lobazul, we really clicked and I’m so grateful for her hard work. It’s taken about a year and a half to create this picture book. We worked really hard on all the little details to make sure that it was really saying what we wanted it to say.

Helpful Infographics in Trauma Mama, Husband Drama

At the back of the book are a bunch of BTR infographics that really help people understand this type of abuse. We’ve got the Power and Control Wheel, we have the Abuse Cycle, we have all those things that can help you understand what is happening to you in a visual way.

This podcast is helpful to people, but there’s something about having this physical book, that’s visual, to help process it as well. It’s a different way of learning, it’s a different way of processing.

Support the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast

I’m going to keep today’s podcast really short because it’s simply a call to action. I am grateful for those of you who will go immediately to order this book. Thank you for your support. Thank you for those who support the podcast on a monthly basis by doing monthly support from our website.

All of you listeners make a huge difference. The podcast downloads have increased exponentially over the years and I’m honored that the podcast has so many listeners. I’m actually blown away and grateful, and grateful that you are part of this mission to educate women about pornography use as an abuse issue and sexual coercion as an abuse issue, so thank you, thank you, thank you.

Join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Community

For our members of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group who show up in our groups all the time, it’s only $125 a month for unlimited live online sessions with our amazing coaches. Members, you’re amazing. Our coaches love seeing your faces in those groups.

When you join, you also get 10% off of Individual Sessions and Individual Session Packages. You can be logged into the website and see all of your options that come from being a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Member. When you join, you’ll be able to see all that stuff inside of the Member Login area. We’d love to see you in a session today.

Until next week, stay safe out there.

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